DSM-IV Tom Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Hey famke is that you in your avatar? If so, I detect potential in the looks department. Any more pics? LOL!
Author Goatsbreath Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 You dont have to feel so bad I mean alot of heartbroken people break NC! See today as a new start for you. dont do it again, and try to focus on anything else except for her. You will get over her. trust me. thanks famke, the only good thing I can say is that I didn't lose it or anything when I saw her. I didn't cry or beg but just poked at the issue a little and then let it go. I also never lashed out at her like I did at the start, I was calm, cool and collective with perhaps a bit of insanity laced amongst those.
famke Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 yeah! that's what I like to hear! you're thinking positive! I mean you're right. You made a mistake, but you didnt made a complete fool out of yourself. like you say: you could have done much much worse. And you know, you just wanted to see her sooo bad, you just did what you thought was right at the time. and although it didnt turn out well.. whatever. just try to move forward, and learn from this experience of meeting your ex-girlfriend. see is moving on, now its your turn!
famke Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Hey famke is that you in your avatar? If so, I detect potential in the looks department. Any more pics? LOL! well thank you for that compliment tom! although I look a little different now. more pics..? ehh nope let me see your picture first
kizik Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Hey famke is that you in your avatar? If so, I detect potential in the looks department. BTW this is robot nerd-speak for "You're hot".
nature Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Oh Goatsbreath...I feel so sad for you. She doesn't deserve you. I think it's so rude that she even answered the phone and stayed on it talking while you were there. It wasn't like it was a busy business call. It could have waited. She's so disrespectful. No matter what she thinks of you now, that's just plain rude behaviour. I sense she is cheeky. She knows you hurt, and she's getting off on the ego boost of knowing she has the ability to hurt someone else. That is so sick and sad. I never want anyone I've broken up wtih to hurt. I do my best not to hurt them. Stop beating yourself up. You did something that in the old days would be considered "gentleman's behaviour". You went to a woman you love, put yourself out there. If she were a more mature respectful woman, it wouldn't have been such a nightmare situation. All I can say is, wow, this girl does not deserve you. How disrespectful of her? I'm still shocked. Try to get angry inside, rather than sad. The anger will keep you strong in not contacting her. Just think that she doesn't deserve you.
kizik Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Oh Goatsbreath...I feel so sad for you. She doesn't deserve you. I think it's so rude that she even answered the phone and stayed on it talking while you were there. It wasn't like it was a busy business call. It could have waited. She's so disrespectful. No matter what she thinks of you now, that's just plain rude behaviour. I sense she is cheeky. She knows you hurt, and she's getting off on the ego boost of knowing she has the ability to hurt someone else. That is so sick and sad. I never want anyone I've broken up wtih to hurt. I do my best not to hurt them. Stop beating yourself up. You did something that in the old days would be considered "gentleman's behaviour". You went to a woman you love, put yourself out there. If she were a more mature respectful woman, it wouldn't have been such a nightmare situation. All I can say is, wow, this girl does not deserve you. How disrespectful of her? I'm still shocked. Try to get angry inside, rather than sad. The anger will keep you strong in not contacting her. Just think that she doesn't deserve you. Goats, Listen to nature, she? is very smart.
Author Goatsbreath Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 PS..why & when did she break up with you? well about 2 months this has been going on. She just moved out of our place around january 1st. Heres my tale of woe if you care to read http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t172186/ ofcourse she is seeing this other guy now but says its light and not serious.......married guy thats seperated from his wife and has two kids............i dont know what the hell she is thinking. I offer her a serious relationship with the prospect of kids and starting a family, shes 30, im 33 and she chooses to go play around.
Peter_pan Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 well thank you for that compliment tom! although I look a little different now. more pics..? ehh nope let me see your picture first lol this could turn into a dating site in some twisted way. also how can you tell from the pic of the back of someones head if "there hot" lmao and dude im sorry to hear bout your ex she did wat my ex did to me. i just went solid NC and it took me a year to get to a better place. i saw her and said what i had to say (after a year) a huge weight was lifted.
nature Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Now that I know the story, DISAPPEAR. No emails, phone calls, drive by's. NOTHING. She doesn't deserve any of you, or any attention from you. Stay angry inside. You will heal. And she will suddenly realize you are not there anymore. She is a walking ego right now. So take your ego boost away from her. She'll wake up one day and realize you're not there. And it will hit her like a ton of bricks. I promise. Right now she doesn't have to feel anything or hurt or miss you...because she thinks you're right there waiting for her. DISAPPEAR. Patience is a virtue and silence is golden. You'll see.
Author Goatsbreath Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 thanks nature, I have plenty to be angry about but for some reason I don't hang onto anger very long. I'm going to muster some up though because there is one thing that just rattles me to the core when I think about it so I don't but maybe I need to. I really need to focus on myself, make myself a better person and she will be sorry. I did everything for her, I cooked for her, If she suddenly wanted some pumpkin pie or something I would go out to the store at 10pm at get her one. She can go to hell, someone else will appreciate what I can offer to a relationship. I mean heck, on halloween, her favorite time of year cus she likes scarey things, i made her a private haunted house in my apartment. I dressed up and ran around like a idot changing costumes and led her through a maze of blankets, haha. oh well
nature Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 It sounds like she had it all with you, and she took it for granted. and she's still taking you for granted. Treating you disrespectfully, with no regard for you as a human being. Disappear. And if you run into her, be cool. Don't show her your anger. Show her disinterest. If you show her your anger, she'll just think you still care. Knock her ego down.
Justmike101 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 can you stop saying Bitch? I think its really disrespectfull to all the women here. especially if you say: new bitch, as a other term for new girl/woman. what are you being a dickhead for? :confused::confused::confused:
famke Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 :confused::confused::confused: yeah.. I know. But I only said that to him because he called women 'bitches'. I dont call all men dickhead. but maybe Im a little hypocrite here. whatever.
famke Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 lol this could turn into a dating site in some twisted way. also how can you tell from the pic of the back of someones head if "there hot" lmao yeah, I was thinking that too.. he didnt even see my face. haha. datingsite? maybe. but that wouldnt work for me.. Im living in holland, and most of you guys live in the USA . but... alot of people here are taking trips to america at this time.. because its cheap during the economic crisis.
Author Goatsbreath Posted January 18, 2009 Author Posted January 18, 2009 prob new bitch is being used because he is hurting now and feels all women will scorn him. I feel that way sometimes, like, oh boy....should I step into this again? anyway, im up early again because I wake up every morning with stupid thinking about the ex. Like I used the night sleeping to recharge the ex pain and misery thoughts so they could all be fresh and ready to go. This way they can where me down effectively throughout the day. Today's thinking: Suddenly hit with the realization that I'm on the outside looking in. I don't know every little detail of her life, what time she works, what she had for breakfast. I'm not even in the circle of if I call her, she will likely answer or call me back in the same day or ever. Today's realization is that my window into her life has become so small and she has opened a new bigger window for somebody else.
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 prob new bitch is being used because he is hurting now and feels all women will scorn him. I feel that way sometimes, like, oh boy....should I step into this again? anyway, im up early again because I wake up every morning with stupid thinking about the ex. Like I used the night sleeping to recharge the ex pain and misery thoughts so they could all be fresh and ready to go. This way they can where me down effectively throughout the day. Today's thinking: Suddenly hit with the realization that I'm on the outside looking in. I don't know every little detail of her life, what time she works, what she had for breakfast. I'm not even in the circle of if I call her, she will likely answer or call me back in the same day or ever. Today's realization is that my window into her life has become so small and she has opened a new bigger window for somebody else. Pretty much man. I thought about this for a while. Our windows into their lives are so small now that all it is doing is making us wish we had more to see. We just need to build a wall, and go find a new window to someone else now......even though we don't want to....
Zammo25 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 thanks guys, Im still just sitting here licking my wounds. I wish there was some magical words that could make things better... I wish I would stop thinking of things that I might say, that I might do to make her suddenly see what it was that made us special........... I wish I would stop thinking of her every time I see or here something on tv, music, movies, etc that I know she would like....... I wish I would stop dreaming of her at night and waking up to a day full of shades..... I wish I would stop thinking about sex and how I'll never touch her soft milky skin......... I wish I would stop thinking about her every time I go to cook and remember the many meals I made for her and I......... I wish I would stop thinking about how maybe,,.......just maybe if she saw this, how much im hurting, she would care............. I know this will hit you hard but SHE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU ANYMORE. I know I am in the same position. Its been 2 weeks NC since she finished with me again ( 6th time in 3 and a half years ). We kept getting back mainly from my chasing ( except once when I dumped her and she chased me ! ). I am getting in into my think skull SHE DOES NOT LOVE ME or certainly SHE DOES NOT LOVE ME AS MUCH AS I LOVED HER. I have been a train wreck for 2 weeks, not eating , not sleeping properly , drinking hard every night, smoking too much and have lost 1 stone. Last night I imagined her with some other guy on a Saturday night ( not sure if she has someone else but would not be suprised ). Imagined him having sex with her. I was almost compelled to drive over and check but that is unhealthy. She has screwed my head up more than anyone has ever done in my life, Way more. My work is being affected and I am determined to beat this. I am proud I have been strong with NC for 2 weeks as I am not going to lose my dignity and self respect anymore. In fact if by some small chance she contacted me I would not take her back even though I still love her and I am sure the cycle would repeat itself again after a few weeks and I did something trivial to irate her. She had no respect for me I am starting to see that now. You deserve much better my friend. Be strong.
Author Goatsbreath Posted January 18, 2009 Author Posted January 18, 2009 I know this will hit you hard but SHE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU ANYMORE. god, I know.... When I said I miss her she don't even respond. I am just starting to accept that she don't give a damn about me. Its really hard and just plan hard to believe after everything we've been through. I also realize that accepting that she don't care about me anymore, that its over is the hardest part and the part I most need to do. Im like a scuba diver looking for any tiny bit of treasure that might still be burried deep in the ocean of our relationship. Like I can find something if I stay down here long enough but I think im starting to run out of air.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 Lmao kizik is always mr brightside. I've never seen someone so negative. Not even me. That's impressive! And my pics are in my album on this site.
Zammo25 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 god, I know.... When I said I miss her she don't even respond. I am just starting to accept that she don't give a damn about me. Its really hard and just plan hard to believe after everything we've been through. I also realize that accepting that she don't care about me anymore, that its over is the hardest part and the part I most need to do. Im like a scuba diver looking for any tiny bit of treasure that might still be burried deep in the ocean of our relationship. Like I can find something if I stay down here long enough but I think im starting to run out of air. I am having a goodbye to my ex evening. I have played lots of songs that sum it up particularly George Michaels - I Can't Make You Love Me. That song is so beautiful and apt. I am playing soundtracks of beautiful music like John Barry's Somewhere In Time truely the soundtrack and film of all love stories and I have cried , I have cried like a baby for the first time in 2 weeks. I am not afraid to admit it. I am hoping this goodbye to my ex evening will help me start tomprrow afresh as I cannot carry on living like this. I am glad I got the tears out it helps. They have been there for 2 weels but refused to come out. It helps to realisee your gave your heart and lost but it means you have a heart. Its better to have a heart than not to have one. I know Men are meant to be macho but in reality if they are Men they do. We are living , breathing human beings like the fairer sex after all.
Zammo25 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 god, I know.... When I said I miss her she don't even respond. I am just starting to accept that she don't give a damn about me. Its really hard and just plan hard to believe after everything we've been through. I also realize that accepting that she don't care about me anymore, that its over is the hardest part and the part I most need to do. Im like a scuba diver looking for any tiny bit of treasure that might still be burried deep in the ocean of our relationship. Like I can find something if I stay down here long enough but I think im starting to run out of air. You are a good man. You will find someone worthy of your love one day. Take one day at a time and keep rolling with the punches as you will get through this my friend.
Zammo25 Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 god, I know.... When I said I miss her she don't even respond. I am just starting to accept that she don't give a damn about me. Its really hard and just plan hard to believe after everything we've been through. I also realize that accepting that she don't care about me anymore, that its over is the hardest part and the part I most need to do. Im like a scuba diver looking for any tiny bit of treasure that might still be burried deep in the ocean of our relationship. Like I can find something if I stay down here long enough but I think im starting to run out of air. The facts is if she loved you she would be with you now. If she valued you she would be with you now. God knows its hard but you have to accept ITS OVER like I am trying to do tnoight. I have spent 2 weeks looking at my movile for a text or call , looked at my e mail for a message and NOTHING. She does NOT CARE ANYMORE. Its her loss my friend. You have a big heart and a lot to offer. If she can't see that, well she has made a big mistake. ITS OVER and one day she may well regret it but ITS TOO LATE you will have moved on and be with someone worthy of your love.
Peter_pan Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 yeah, I was thinking that too.. he didnt even see my face. haha. datingsite? maybe. but that wouldnt work for me.. Im living in holland, and most of you guys live in the USA . but... alot of people here are taking trips to america at this time.. because its cheap during the economic crisis. haha well there you go, try sort something out. im not from the us but also not in the netherlands but you can pm if u like lol back to this post, dude she dont care and has been pretty nasty bout it so if i were you its the best time to put it aside and move on
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