durotto Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I just talked to my ex today .. she told me that she got engaged this month .. She wanted space to think in October 13 , november 14 she felt she could not go on .. and now Jan 15 she is engaged to get married to someone else .. can you pls help me ? I have tried to rebuild my life without her... done NC .. and all that .. but right now I am just tired and sad .. pls I need advice ..
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 man.......thats gotta be ****in rough, I deeply feel for you..... Excuse me for throwing this out, but whas she cheating on you? Or possibly could have been? Either that or she is moving on WAY to fasy, which you can find comfort in knowing it will fail.
Author durotto Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 man.......thats gotta be ****in rough, I deeply feel for you..... Excuse me for throwing this out, but whas she cheating on you? Or possibly could have been? Either that or she is moving on WAY to fasy, which you can find comfort in knowing it will fail. I don't think she was .. I don't know really .. but then I know that it all is really really fast .. his parents are going over to her place to finalize stuff and get to know each other .. either or both of them will leave their job as office does not allow such internal relations and they plan on announcing everything next week I guess .. I talked with her civilly and she told me that he had proposed and she said yes and she said that he was everything she wanted in a man .. 4 years we were together .. and today she is gone officially .. the plans we made .. kids we dreamed of having .. all gone . I don't even know her anymore ..
LostLamb Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Hi, I am so sorry for you. I expect my ex of 2 momths to be engaged before the end of the year. It is depressing how quickly we are forgotten. Why are you still talking to her? Are you still friends or did she call to tell you about the engagement?
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I don't think she was .. I don't know really .. but then I know that it all is really really fast .. his parents are going over to her place to finalize stuff and get to know each other .. either or both of them will leave their job as office does not allow such internal relations and they plan on announcing everything next week I guess .. I talked with her civilly and she told me that he had proposed and she said yes and she said that he was everything she wanted in a man .. 4 years we were together .. and today she is gone officially .. the plans we made .. kids we dreamed of having .. all gone . I don't even know her anymore .. One of two things with this. 1. She was cheating on you ahead of time and therefore was spending more time with this guy than you were to believe. 2. She has gone bat**** crazy and you need to run in the other direction as fast as possible. This hurts man I know, if I were you I probably would've killed someone by now......Its hard enough to have your girl date someone imediatelly after breaking it off with you. Just forget about her, do NC. Take care of yourself and do what you gotta do to keep yourself sane. Were here for you brother.
Author durotto Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 Hi, I am so sorry for you. I expect my ex of 2 momths to be engaged before the end of the year. It is depressing how quickly we are forgotten. Why are you still talking to her? Are you still friends or did she call to tell you about the engagement? I called really (besides me, she and her new bf are in the same office and we talk in a civil manner , I mean we are all adults here right .. ???.. ).. I actually wanted to know if she had gotten engaged and she said yes .. I knew they had .. I know her mannerisms .. and by seeing them together I knew that something of that sort had happened and I had to know ... I mean 4 years together and you know everything they think .. and then they forget you .. and get married to someone else .. I know that for her it is too fast .. and she even admitted to that .. but do such fast decisions mean that she is taking a wrong decision or am I just being vindictive ?
Author durotto Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 One of two things with this. 1. She was cheating on you ahead of time and therefore was spending more time with this guy than you were to believe. 2. She has gone bat**** crazy and you need to run in the other direction as fast as possible. This hurts man I know, if I were you I probably would've killed someone by now......Its hard enough to have your girl date someone imediatelly after breaking it off with you. Just forget about her, do NC. Take care of yourself and do what you gotta do to keep yourself sane. Were here for you brother. Thanks Knight I really do appreciate your words .. One thing I would like to add is that I have always always wanted her to be happy .. and that I can say with all my heart .. I don't grudge her, her happiness. I feel sad a lot and it hurts so much .. but if she is really really happy then so am I .. I know that it sounds like BS to many people .. but really what would you have ? Her unhappy with you at some point or other .. or her thinking that she can be happy with someone else and letting her try out and be happy .. If you love em .. you gotta let them go .
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Thanks Knight I really do appreciate your words .. One thing I would like to add is that I have always always wanted her to be happy .. and that I can say with all my heart .. I don't grudge her, her happiness. I feel sad a lot and it hurts so much .. but if she is really really happy then so am I .. I know that it sounds like BS to many people .. but really what would you have ? Her unhappy with you at some point or other .. or her thinking that she can be happy with someone else and letting her try out and be happy .. If you love em .. you gotta let them go . I respect the **** out of you. I told my ex the same thing, and I did mean it. Now I know she's happy but at the same time I'm busying hating her every single day. You can't really say "if she's happy, I'm happy." Because you arn't or you wouldnt be feeling like this. What you're doing is loving her so deeply that you are willing to suffer and be UNhappy for her sake. Which is showing her you truly love her instead of just saying it (which is what she's done to you). You arn't happy, but you have the balls enough to deal with pain for someone you love. And whoever you do end up with is going to be the luckiest mother ****er ever because they will have someone who is willing to do that for them.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Dude she's clearly ****ing nuts. Take solace in the fact no normal person does what she has done, and she's gunna crash and burn.
ReeWoo Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Forget about him... his mind and heart is now for the new person.. Nothing you say or do will bring him back .. you need to let him go and reconcile with yourself .. Replace the him with her. There you go, you said it a couple of weeks ago. Let her go, remove the harness from your back and be free from the bindings that restrain you - from healing. Be free. That woman that you loved for so long is gone - she chose to end it.
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Dude she's clearly ****ing nuts. Take solace in the fact no normal person does what she has done, and she's gunna crash and burn. Yeah just sit back and wait for her self destruction. That's kind of what I'm doing right now, I know both my ex and this bastard friend of mine wont work out and when hearts get broken I'm just going to sit around and laugh.....muahahah..teehee
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Good knight you once again have enough balls to be real. We all love to put on this happy and strong face and pretend to be good people... but how many of us would actually wish our ex's good luck with the guy/girl they're with? (ESPECIALLY when they left us for them?) Seriously, wake the hell up you optimistic fools. Negativity is reality.
Author durotto Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 but what happens if they really are happy ? how do you know that they won't be happy ? No one knows that .. and right now .. both of them are and want to be happy .. but I don't deny the fact that do I wish that she and him don't work out and she goes through what I am going through now the mental anguish and so on .. I mean what goes around .. comes around .. karma ..
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Exactly durotto be real and admit you don't want them to work out. Who could blame you? I wouldn't want them to either. What she did was selfish and she didn't think of anyone but her obviously. Why WOULD someone like that deserve to be happy?
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 but what happens if they really are happy ? how do you know that they won't be happy ? No one knows that .. and right now .. both of them are and want to be happy .. but I don't deny the fact that do I wish that she and him don't work out and she goes through what I am going through now the mental anguish and so on .. I mean what goes around .. comes around .. karma .. Hey man, even IF they are happy now it doesnt mean they will be down the road. And even if they are together forever it doesnt matter. She was a bitch to YOU, in your reality she should still be a bitch. You don't deserve that man. Let the other guy deal with that garbage. She was your garbage for a while, you swam through it, and now you're cleaning it off...good for you. =)
ReeWoo Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Oh, what's going to happen is that they are going to marry, she's going to get knocked up and in 2 or 3 years she's going to be faced with her babby's daddy being an ******* that she doesn't love . . . yeah, whatever. Move on to someone else dude.
Author durotto Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 Oh, what's going to happen is that they are going to marry, she's going to get knocked up and in 2 or 3 years she's going to be faced with her babby's daddy being an ******* that she doesn't love . . . yeah, whatever. Move on to someone else dude. Thanks again you guys !! but I just can't get her out of head at all .. and I have been really really grumpy all day and been taking my anger out on everyone .. I guess I should stop doing that .. and just relax .. but how do you just forget someone ?
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