BlueHarvest Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Questions notated with ***'s in front of them. Ok, to everyone who knows what I've been through so far...I think I've figured it out. I haven't been communicating enough. I realized I still don't know alot about her, the girl I'm seeing. I don't know what her favorite color is, what her favorite flower is, or her middle name. EDIT: Ok, I know it is sad that I don't know those things, but I do know and remember other things about her. It's just I feel it's a bit awkward and cliche to directly ask "What is your favorite flower?" or "What is your favorite color?". I was kind of hoping these things might just come out naturally over the course of time and I'd be able to file them away. Asking for them is kind of lame IMO. But then again I'm no dating expert. AT THREE MONTHS OF DATING. And at three months of dating I'd expect us to consider each other BF/GF. And I have a feeling that isn't completely mutual. I consider her my GF, but I think she just considers me as a "date". I don't know. Maybe it's supposed to be implied at this point in. I mean dating only lasts so long. If she didn't want to be with me I figured she would just break it off by now. ***So should I assume that at three months in of dating I'm just automatically her boyfriend? So I've come up with a great "ice-breaker" (as in moving foward since the ice seems to have encrusted around us and made our relationship 'stall'). I'll say... "So <name>, We've been dating for about 3 months now. I really like you and would like to know even more about you. How do you feel about our relationship so far?" So... ***Too foward? Too intense? How should I revise this statement? (If any revisions are needed.)
Wicked Child Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I would just ask her if you can call her your girlfriend...Or, blame it on your friends...."The guys keep askin me when they're going to meet my gf..lol." The "where do we stand" question is always awkward...And I tend to blame others when I pose questions like those...so it doesn't seem like i'm trying to label anything... I would not assume she feels the same tho...I know many people who just hate the idea of being labeled...I think it's stupid, personally...If it walks and talks like a duck...then it's an effing duck..Much the same as if you are seeing only each other, spend alot of time together, etc...you may as well be bf/gf.. BUT i stress, some people HATE labels...even if it confirms what they are... As far as not knowing alot...Don't feel bad. My ex of 6 years didn't know jack about me at the end of it all...then had the nerve to ask me why I changed so much...You can see why hes an ex...lol..
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