wish Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Hi, I'm 25 and my gf is 24. She recently broke up with me. She was my first gf...taught me what a kiss is. We were both international students. We lived in the same dorm and met when she was with someone else..she two timed, but we were both convinced that we are made for each other. After 4-5 months and she finally broke up with him and we got together. We spent every living moment of the next 3 years together. We fought a lot but made up. They were the most romantic and beautiful times. We were madly in love despite all the fights. We had a very positive chemistry and understanding. We were very very close. She painted for me and i built ships in bottles for her She was very very clingy and controlling and used to keep pushing me to the limits of anger and rage. We used to argue until i went completely hysteric throwing things etc. for 2 years she took it and hugged me until i cooled down. I didn't give up coz i knew this will pass and i really loved her.I got an internship but she wasn't really happy and said i didnt deserve it. i felt bad but let it pass thinking its just her insecurity. I did a lot for her. She called me "home away from home". She meant everything to me. I Wrote her SOP's, her dad called me up and thanked me for it. My aunt was sick in hospital but i didn't visit her just to go to my GF's graduation. My aunt died the next day. We never had sex but she always said that she wants me to be the first one. She loved me with all her heart. She graduated last year and was going to go to grad school in sept. The summer before that she took up an internship in FL (june). Things were worse over long distance and i decided we should taka break for a month. The break worked and she got independent but says she was very hurt. At the end of summer we met and things were great. Her mother came to visit and stayed over. She fought with her mother for me and things looked great. then she went to CA for grad school. I packed her entire room alone and shipped 250 lbs on my own to her. Her new sem at grad school started.. we missed each other a lot. Then she started studying with this guy...they were just friend but i got jealous and fought with her over it. We were supposed to meet for thanksgiving but she made me cancel her tickets bcos of her exams and the fights. I was possessive and angry. She broke up with me on December 20th saying that she cant stay int his any longer bcos of my anger and she was very hurt from teh break 6 mhts ago. She canceled her NY tickets saying that if we meet she'll get back together with me and doesnt want that. She didn't want o see me coz she'll melt. Since then i kept calling her and trying to convince her back. She says she breaking up with her brain and not her heart. Its been less than a month and she has moved on. She is goign on a road trip to LA with another guy, she says she likes and wants to be with. My friends keeps saying that she doesn't appreciate me. She has forgotten all the good and only remembers that i hurt her. She says she will never get over me and if love is true we will meet again. i know she still has feelings for me though. She says she fondly remembers the old times. I'm on the worst shape of my life. its been a month and i cant eat or sleep. I've become sick. I love her with everything i have and really really want to be with her. It can believe someone who loved me for 3 years just left and moved on. The memories haunt me. I live in the same dorm the same place... She says she doesn't want to see me...and if i come there she might not open the door. I really want to hug her just once. Its my b'day on 23rd..should i go there and surprise her of will she really slam the door in my face? Please help...i really want her back
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 My God, has the whole world gone crazy? Let's see where to START. She cheated on someone with YOU. That means she'd cheat on YOU with someone ELSE. Or did you think you were God's gift to women and you could get women to cheat, but are too good to not be cheated on? That's this relationships first mistake. Secondly, you both have anger issues it seems. She seems to like to test you to validate your feelings about her, which probably stems from her feeling insecure and/or inadequate. This girl is insane, and is an emotional vampire; she will suck your life away. If I may be frank, let me say that you are a true idiot for wanting to be with this demon-girl. Straight up. Go get help man I fear for your sanity since you WILLINGLY WANT to be with this demon. This Ungodly hell spawn of a relationship should be thrown into dantes lowest level of hell and tortured by little demonistic creatures and roasted in fires the temperature of our sun. You need to THANK YOUR LUCKY STARS YOU'RE AWAY FROM THIS DEMON OF A GIRL!!!!! But you want to BE WITH HER? ARE YOU ****ING NUTS!!!!!!! Have a good day
Author wish Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 But then why did it last for 3 years? And why does it hurt so much if she i thinking of dating someone else? And why did we get so close? can we ever get back?
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Simple psychology... come on, anyone could answer this. She has put you down many times, so you feel as if she's the best you can get, and thus, you've created a mental complex where she's ALL you want. Even if you don't realize it. It lasted for three years because you're an idiot. Or she's an idiot. (OR both are idiots, most likely). Doesn't mean you'll be an idiot forever. You can change now and be intelligent. Has NO ONE ever told you that thing's don't get better in situations like yours, but rather they get worse? Your ex girlfriend has a severe mental disorder, most likely something in the cluster B section of the DSM-IV. You need to be thankful that she's gone.
Geishawhelk Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 My God, has the whole world gone crazy? I know, when will it ever end - ?? She cheated on someone with YOU. That means she'd cheat on YOU with someone ELSE. Or did you think you were God's gift to women and you could get women to cheat, but are too good to not be cheated on? That's this relationships first mistake. Yup. I concur. Secondly, you both have anger issues it seems. She seems to like to test you to validate your feelings about her, which probably stems from her feeling insecure and/or inadequate. This girl is insane, and is an emotional vampire; she will suck your life away. You know I kindof agree with this too! If I may be frank, let me say that you are a true idiot for wanting to be with this demon-girl. Straight up. Go get help man I fear for your sanity since you WILLINGLY WANT to be with this demon. This Ungodly hell spawn of a relationship should be thrown into dantes lowest level of hell and tortured by little demonistic creatures and roasted in fires the temperature of our sun. Capital D for Dante, darling. It's a proper noun. And a bit extreme, but I think he should get the drift. You need to THANK YOUR LUCKY STARS YOU'RE AWAY FROM THIS DEMON OF A GIRL!!!!! But you want to BE WITH HER? ARE YOU ****ING NUTS!!!!!!! Have a good day Right. What he said.
Author wish Posted January 17, 2009 Author Posted January 17, 2009 I know the question i put out sounds desperate and crazy...i;m very emotional right now.... Lemme ask you this to see if i've given a clear picture....what do you htink her problem is? I didn't mention a lot of details...things like we actually make very good friends more than bf and gf. Her reason for breaking up with me are just the anger fits and me being 'weak'. She still says that she will not get over me for a very long time... and doesnt want to see me coz she'll fall for me. We started out as an immature couple but as years passed we did grow into each other. I think its just he long disatnace and the fact that we havene met each other for almost 6 mnths now I just want to know if you relaly love someone does it really come back...do people ever reunite after a break up? Both of us know that if we resolve maturity issues we make a good couple. Will she ever see that? If she sees me will it make a difference?
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