I told him not to contact me...but it kills me that he doesn't

[crackerjax9]

Only on day 3 of no contact... I know I know.. I told him to leave me alone & he basically has not tried to contact me but I cant stop thinking about what hes doing and the fact that hes not trying to call or text me. Weve broken up before and the most I've gone with no contact is a week...do you think hes just waiting for me to give in?

[Makemesmile]

If he's the one that has done wrong or hurt you, then he may just be giving you the time you asked for.

 

I know its not easy, your thinking how dare he not contact me, he should be calling every 5mins telling me he loves me and wants me to get back with him.

 

Do you want him back?

[BikerBeagle]

Weve broken up before and the most I've gone with no contact is a week...do you think hes just waiting for me to give in?

If it has worked for him in the past, then yes, that's exactly what he's doing.

 

The question is, will you give in this time? Do you really want to?

 

Sadly, NC is no more than a power game to some people ...

[crackerjax9]

im just so fed up with him..hes never going to change his ways and i know i should just let go of him

 

btw he has contacted me today and weve done nothing but basically argue through texts..i just told him im moving on again and to leave me alone

[eDave]

Get over yourself. You left him and he too is finally done.

 

This whole thing confuses me. First we are told NOT to reach out, go NC, whatever because it makes us look needy, pathetic and just drives the other person further away. Yet here you are wishing he would contact you and beg even though YOU ARE THE ONE WHO TOLD HIM NOT TOO! You have a BIG ****ing ego. This was your decision so you better accept that.

 

You are a big part of the problem you know? Fix YOUR **** then think about a relationship. Good Lord!

[nature]

Cracker...i suspect it was you who contacted him today, and not the other way around. Judging from you being upset that he hasn't contacted you. And the fact you feel he's never goign to change.

 

You want him to change. But he is who he is. So either break up and stay No contact, or accept him for who he is.

[neverlost]

Weve broken up before and the most I've gone with no contact is a week...do you think hes just waiting for me to give in

You play a dangerous game. I think you should look at things as in do you want to be with the other person or not, and not who will "give in first".

 

When you keep playing these games, one day he is not going to contact you... not in a week... or a month... or ever. People tire of them.

 

Contact him if you want to be with him, because if you don't and wait for him to give in, you might lose him forever, then you'll be kicking yourself.

 

But if you really don't want to be with him... then why worry about him contacting you.

 

I don't want to judge you here, but you sound as though if he doesn't keep contacting you or chasing you, and decides he doesn't want to be with you, it's going to hit you hard then.

 

 

-neverlost