SadHeart79 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Okay, long story short I have met a guy online and we have been emailing, chatting on the phone every day for the past two months. Here is the thing, he lives on the other side of Australia. I live on the west coast, he lives on the east coast. I am planning on moving over to the east coast in a few months time, not because of him, it was something I planned a while ago. Anyway, he is planning on flying over just to meet me and see my half of the world for a few weeks. He has organised to stay with a mate who lives over here just in case we don't hit it off in person. If we do, I've told him he can stay with me, but I don't know, I keep thinking that maybe it's not such a good idea. I mean, usually people meet for a first date, then go home and organise to go out again if everything goes well. In this case, it will be like one very lonnnggggg date...lol. How do I handle that without us getting sick of each other (heaven forbid!)? He really does sound like a really nice guy and we have talked about what we want for the future and we seem to be on the same page in that respect, it's just that I'm trying not to get too excited because I have been disappointed too many times through online dating that now I am a little sceptical about the whole thing. I guess I just need some advice and I would love to know if anyone else has been in the same position and how they handled it?
Oliveman Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 Ouch that's a tough one! That would in fact pretty much be one LONG date! The only real way I'd say is to have him plan a lot of stuff to do if he comes. If it's just a few weeks of hanging out around your house that would be bad in my opinion. Action dates would be best. Or try to set boundaries. He's staying with your friend you said, so have him stay there most of the time and take you out on dates. Not like he can't spend the night, but he can leave in the morning type deal. Hard situation
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 I don't think it's a good idea for him to stay with you even if you do get along upon first meeting. Just because it COULD get awkward. That would be an incredibly long date.
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