Relius Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Alright, I'll try and be as anonymous as possible, this is a really long story: I go to a music school, and at this school, I study an instrument and am trying to get my Assosciates degree. Anyways, I've been in a relationship slump for quite a while, no real luck, a lot of rejection, but a lot of reassembling of my self esteem and all of that good stuff. A few months ago, about 4 and a half I would say, I met this girl who had just started in the Bachelors program at the school. It was at a pizza meet and greet for new students and current students to break the ice. I noticed her at the table getting food, and it was her eyes that really caught my attention. They're these bright blue eyes that just stand out in a crowd, almost as if they were being illuminated by some kind of light source. But besides that, she was just amazingly cute. Anyways, we talked, and laughed, and hung out with some other people, and I left to go to my Artist Development class. On my way, I see her setting up her guitar, and I stop and talk for a bit, give her a book on songwriting because we got into a conversation about it, and then let her get on with her private lesson while I got on with mine. We exchanged phone numbers so that she could give it back at the right time. The quarter passed by almost uneventfully, but we always kinda talked when ever she was around. She'd be hanging out outside of her class and we'd joke and have some fun talking about random things, although through this we always seemed to be late for our other respective classes and end up parting ways. She was also pretty sick for most of the quarter, so we never got to see each other much. On the last Friday of the quarter, I stopped in on one of her classes, and when she got off the stage from her performance, she came and sat right next to me and we chatted and joked about her performance, and stayed relatively close to one another, although never really took it any further then that. Quarter break came, we texted each other and talked about serious things, dumb things, ect. She seems to get the best out of me both in person and over texts apparently, haha, because I just feel like I'm saying all of the right things every time we talk. Anyways, the quarter has started and we've gotten back into communication with each other. We started out seeing each other sparingly, but I had a gig come up and I needed her to be my guitar tech for the gig. She comes along and we talk in the car, and we just talk about anything and everything, it is so easy for us to talk, in fact my band members were making fun of me a little bit about it behind my back, but mostly encouraging me to go for her. We get to the gig, set up, and everything runs smoothly, we make eye contact a lot, smile, make small talk, and then it's my turn to get up on stage. I get up, we play the set, she's watching me alot, I love it. During our slow Blues/Jazz song, I turn to her for my solo, and make sure she knows it's for her. She tells me later she felt pretty special that I picked her out of the crowd. The night continues with more great bands going up, and we just talk, stand close to one another and have fun. At times I'd get a glass of water and she'd grab towards it and take a sip from my straw, and then I'd take a sip from it again. Other times, I'd walk towards the table where she's at with everyone else and, when we make contact, she'll start drawing me over with her fingers just to talk. At times we'd lean in close to talk over the loud music, but sometimes let our heads touch a little. By the end of the night, it was about 2:15 a.m. and she was pretty tired, so was the rest of my band, so we headed back and I began dropping everyone off. I didn't know where she lived, so I got the chance to get her alone by dropping everyone else off first, and then her, so that way I could just talk with her a little longer, about anyhting. We get to her house, and as she takes off her seat belt, she raises up her fist, we pound them together, and she says "well, this is easier, I'd hug you, but we're stuck in the car", I tell her that I was happy that she came and that she made my life easier that night by helping out. She smiles and opens the car and says, "have a good night, and drive safe!" and I tell her, "have sweet dreams!" She smiles, closes the door, and runs towards her apartment steps. I give a quick little honk as she gets there, and wave good bye and then take off. I really want to go further than this, this girl is just amazing. She makes me into a better person just by being around me. Everything about her is fantastic, and we have a ton in common, even little mannerisms that we both do when we listen to music, or just every day things. And when we talk, we just talk and talk about anything that comes to our heads, and seem to get lost in conversation. I think she likes me, but I don't know how to escalate things further than this, nor how to tell her that I like her as more than just a friend. I really need some advice, I think she's the girl that God's been waiting to toss into my life, the one that I've been needing. I just don't know how to handle this situation, I'm really lost and don't want to screw anything up. Any advice would be great! Thanks!
Geishawhelk Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 How about just asking her "would you like to go on a date?" This is called communication, and young people seem woefully inadequate at it. My friend is a young people's counsellor and works at three different education and child-care establishments, and her main worry is that young people just don't know how to talk. She despairs for the next generation, because she sees the main issues that will arise will be loneliness, solitude and isolation. X-boxes, PCs ipods and mobile phone texts are at the heart of the matter. Too many people use mobile phonmes as their main way of talking to others, and too many people wander around in their own little world, in a bubble, isolated by their earphones. Talk to the girl! Just tell her you'd love to see her again!! That's all it takes!! All she can say is no, but you won't lose the friendship!
prettybaby Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 How about you pick up the phone and ask her if she wants to grab some lunch some time?
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