DrumMajor13 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 So recently i met someone at work who i've become very interested in. We don't work for the same agency... rather my agency dispatches for his agency, so we do talk to eachother every work day and rely on eachother to get the job done. I met him when i went to his agency for a tour and he showed me around. Anyway, the tour and orientation of the company lasted about 6 hours.. just the two of us hanging out and him doing his job, showing me what their agency does. I don't often see him, but talk to him via phone and radio every day... and we can send message back and forth while at work from his computer to mine (not exactly IM'ing it's actually a work program that we use)... i'd really like to get to know him better and maybe give him my number casually to see what happens. If nothing romantic, than just friendship... because i do really like him. I want to be very careful about crossing any lines tho and being unprofessional. My thoughts were to just strike up a conversation some night when it's slow... and later mention that maybe we shouldn't be messaging too much over the work system and give him my number, tell him maybe to text me sometime. I don't want to be too forward.... what are your thoughts?
Dumbledore Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 what are your thoughts? nothin at all? When business and pleasure mix, you have the perfect cocktail. I say you should gradually increase your flirtatiousness until something explodes.
Author DrumMajor13 Posted January 20, 2009 Author Posted January 20, 2009 so i emailed him and asked him for another ride along if he was willing. he called me the next morning and said he'd love to have me. i've just got to check my schedule and get back to him to schedule something! I was kind of disappointed in myself, the conversation was verryyy formal and... work-like... lol... BUT... i'm making progress! woo hoo! not sure whether to call him or email him tho to schedule the ridealong.
Dumbledore Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 he called me the next morning and said he'd love to have me. Let's hope that he enjoys having you on a regular and ongoing basis.
bean1 Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 Since you said agency/dispatch/ridealong, are you a dispatcher and he is a cop? As one dispatcher to another, you KNOW this is a recipe for disaster!! I know a few that have lasted to a good marriage but the other 97% crashed and burned Keep that in mind! Of course, any other experienced dispatchers have probably already passed that wisdom along!
Author DrumMajor13 Posted January 21, 2009 Author Posted January 21, 2009 Since you said agency/dispatch/ridealong, are you a dispatcher and he is a cop? As one dispatcher to another, you KNOW this is a recipe for disaster!! I know a few that have lasted to a good marriage but the other 97% crashed and burned Keep that in mind! Of course, any other experienced dispatchers have probably already passed that wisdom along! close, but no he's not a cop. : ) hehe, and yeah i know i'm being a retard for even thinking about it... cuz you're right, lots of experienced coworkers of mine "frown" on getting involved with ppl we dispatch for.. but he's really hot! what can i say. LOL.. i guess i'll learn the hard way : )
Author DrumMajor13 Posted February 1, 2009 Author Posted February 1, 2009 so i went on another ride along with him last night. had a great time, we have soo much in common. We flirted a little, he made a few jokes about me being a cutie and getting to take me riding. We talked a lot in general. Lots of laughing, etc. At the end of the night though, when i left... i got really nervous and said thank you and have a good night.. and that was it. And it feels to me like that's really the end... like nothing further will happen with him. I already initiated the second ride along, i don't want to be too forward and be the one to ask him to hang out sometime, ya know? But i really want to get to know him better, i don't want to regret any part of this. He's a nice guy, and i really like him. I don't know what to do!
Author DrumMajor13 Posted February 2, 2009 Author Posted February 2, 2009 so i texted him just a thank you.... and he texted me back that said i was welcome and i am welcome any time i want to go. and we talked a little bit just small talk about the football game and stuff... so, you know, i guess that's good. I wanna mention to him... something like "call me if you want to hang out sometime"... just to give him the green light or something? I'm not sure tho. Not sure if i should just come out and say it, ya know? What do you guys think? trust me, i know i'm being ridiculous here... could use any help i can get!
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