lofi_tokyo Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Okay! Theres a guy at my work who is not technically my boss, nor is he in charge of my position at my job in any way, however he does out rank me and anyways, that does not intimidate me, what DOES is: Recently, his boss was charged with a sexual harassment suit which came from my side of the company. Since then, I guess management has been pretty strict with rules about how you approach co-workers among the higher-ups. Well this guy and I are considering dating casually but... he could get fired. I'm not really sure how to approach this? Is it worth going for, or not at all?
Quinch Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 If you're serious about this, one of you will have to find a job elsewhere
Geishawhelk Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Either that, or he will. I'm not really sure how to approach this? Is it worth going for, or not at all? Meet him outside work, away from possible prying eyes and discuss this in private. Sexual harassment is different to mutually acceptable dating, so you may also have to tentatively test the waters through HR.
SierraRose Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Honestly, if you value your job-don't do it...
boxing123 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 How can a girl resist dating a "higher up"? And what is dating casually?
You'reasian Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Theres a guy at my work who is not technically my boss, nor is he in charge of my position at my job in any way, however he does out rank me and anyways, that does not intimidate me As mentioned above, do not see the individual during working hours. Keep everything professional, no PDA's and use good judgement. Above all else, be respectful and thoughtful. If company policy forbids you from dating higher ups, then consider keeping them as a contact and look elsewhere.
Author lofi_tokyo Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 As mentioned above, do not see the individual during working hours. Keep everything professional, no PDA's and use good judgement. Above all else, be respectful and thoughtful. If company policy forbids you from dating higher ups, then consider keeping them as a contact and look elsewhere. Thanks everyone for the input on this one. I don't know if theres a rigid company policy on dating within the company, there is one couple that consists of a girl at my level dating one of her seniors, and it does not seem the be the problem. I think its just that company partners from the man in questions area dating people from my part of the company is a bit taboo as a result of the harassment charge. That being said, while I do not believe my job would be in danger if I dated this man, it certainly sounds like his would be up in the air. The question for me then becomes - if he is willing to risk his career, does that justify dating? There jury is out on that one, I don't want him losing his job. As for PDAs and keeping professional - I'm sure we'd both stick to that when push came to shove, as I am very professional in nature at work. So I guess, with all of your responses in mind, I think I'll go out with him once for drinks and see how it goes, if there really seems to be some real chemistry between us, I'll pin down exactly what company policy is from there and weigh my options at that point. As it stands, I think I'm leaning towards not starting anything up - I love my job, I love that I'm very respected at my work and that people come to me for help, and I'd hate to lose that respect over a guy. Still, I'm tentative to rule out a relationship that could become a loving one. I'll keep you all posted I suppose!
boxing123 Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Well this might also work out towards a promotion for you if things go well. Unless of course he gets fired for dating you..
You'reasian Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 So I guess, with all of your responses in mind, I think I'll go out with him once for drinks and see how it goes, if there really seems to be some real chemistry between us, I'll pin down exactly what company policy is from there and weigh my options at that point. As it stands, I think I'm leaning towards not starting anything up - I love my job, I love that I'm very respected at my work and that people come to me for help, and I'd hate to lose that respect over a guy. Still, I'm tentative to rule out a relationship that could become a loving one. I'll keep you all posted I suppose! Sounds like a great plan. Best of luck!
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