Lucky555 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 So finally i did it. I am a bit sad. I have some sort of an attraction to him and its very strong. He is VERY ATTRACTIVE and his voice is so lovely. BUT, I can't let myself get involved with someone like this. Read below. HOWEVER, He tried to use me for my car (drive him around, also asked one time to drive a few of his friends to a bar), money for his snacks. This is such a disappointment. He never once invited me out to dinner...I'm guessing he never had money because he spends it at the bars every weekend as i found out. He is also sketchy in some ways: I asked him about his family and he very very briefly discusses them. He has a ton of friends who all drink His best friend has a girlfriend and macks on other girls! Every time i see him he wants to sleep with me (im glad he does but its been like this since the first date and its only been 5 dates total) Has told me he spends his money at the bars hes 26. He is always on his phone texting or calling....oh yeah my favorite when its time to pay he gets on his phone! He doesn't have much going for him. He has a job and spends his money foolishly...don't see a future with him. He always wants to see me and I really don't trust him enough to let him know where i live. (instincts) One time i was mad him because he didn't pick up his phone when we were supposed to go out on a date and i refused to answer his calls (we had it planned a week in advance!)He then used something to block his number and name so i would pick up the phone. (Never had that happen in my life)
dreamergrl Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 He used *67 And that's lame of him. I hate it when there's so much physical attraction but so many flags like that. Or there's so many great qualities but no physical attraction.
zilverenvlinder Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I hate it when there's so much physical attraction but so many flags like that. Or there's so many great qualities but no physical attraction. I HATE *67!! IT IS SOOO LAME. I also hate the really hot ones who are so stupid. -_- God! Can't there just be a happy medium?
jerbear Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 So finally i did it. I am a bit sad. I have some sort of an attraction to him and its very strong. He is VERY ATTRACTIVE and his voice is so lovely. BUT, I can't let myself get involved with someone like this. Read below. That is why he got away with alot of stuff. Car use, texting, drinking.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 I know we had so much CHEMISTRY. My heart pounded never had that happen in my life! But I would have been miserable in the long run. I'm not looking for MR. RIGHT NOW I want MR. RIGHT. Looks are not everything.
Trialbyfire Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Lucky, he's not even Mr. Right Now. He's a user.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 I just got off the phone from him just a little while ago. So its sinking in. Guy A i think is pretty much gone too! I start purposely chatting with another guy so he could read my messages and see I was not interested in just him. He however, was VERY lax on initiating a relationship...plus so much distance between us...oh yeah the fact he was recently out of a relationship of 1.5 years and i didn't know this until my "so called friend told me " when i asked her. Another guy is trying to date me...he apparently has a reputation for being a player. BLAH I'm getting some really dumb guys coming around. I'm going to be single and happy for awhile. No more drama like snack boy.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Try to get yourself away from the environment that's making all these lame guys attracted to you. I try to date outside of my social circle to avoid confusion among friends, but I try not to go for guys that doesn't give me any self respect.
Star Gazer Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I start purposely chatting with another guy so he could read my messages and see I was not interested in just him. Can you explain what this means? Are you using a site like Facebook or MySpace to find men and chat with them?
motive2002 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Here's a thought.. Are you driven by lust? I know attraction needs to be there, but perhaps if you cool off from all the "chemistry" maybe you can meet someone with a little more substance. Yenno, get to know someone more gradually. I know it's not as exciting, but if you really want something for the long haul, maybe you should re-evaluate the kind of guys you're going for. It's been in my experience that "eye candy" and so on is like real candy. Tastes great and gives you a sugar rush, but there's no nutritional value.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 Star Gazer Can you explain what this means? Are you using a site like Facebook or MySpace to find men and chat with them? I have not dated anyone online. I have met them by: Past guys: Met at work. (x2) Last relationship (8 months ago) So it took me a while to start dating again as i needed to recover. Guy A: Met through a friend (thought it would work but he turned out to be not good for me) Guy B: Met at a club. (Maybe this why its ended?) Just recently a guy started trying to get to know me through Facebook. I didn't mind but was not interested because I asked someone about him who knew him. My source was very reliable. motive2002 Here's a thought.. Are you driven by lust? I know attraction needs to be there, but perhaps if you cool off from all the "chemistry" maybe you can meet someone with a little more substance. Yenno, get to know someone more gradually. I know it's not as exciting, but if you really want something for the long haul, maybe you should re-evaluate the kind of guys you're going for. It's been in my experience that "eye candy" and so on is like real candy. Tastes great and gives you a sugar rush, but there's no nutritional value. I like the chemistry when its there, but as you see I took my time to truly know the person before jumping into anything. Yes, amazing chemistry with the guy but i slowed it down. Guy A, I didn't have initial chemistry with him but i took the time to date him a bit and yeah he basically "tried" to sleep with me on the second date. So hes out and he showed himself to be a very sleezy guy. The last guy i dated I got to know him, and like him for him..he was stuck on his ex. Ripped my heart out when i found out. So really I am getting to know people and not dating one guy because its not serious and its just going and getting to know the guy ect. Its working for me to get rid of guys who I know are not going to work out before I get attached. Recently I have decided to join some group workout sessions a few times a week, I think I will focus on myself and let everything fall into place. I really am pretty chatty and social with people, my friends also know the type of guy i am looking for so that helps, because they are on the look out for me as well. I don't think I'm doing anything wrong just going through a lot of guys it seems.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 donnamaybe: Nothing wrong with that! Have fun, as long as it's not at someone else's expense (feelings, I mean, not cash). At least you didn't stop at just one - the WRONG one! Right? Better to go through a few guys and wait to find the one that suits you than waste your time in a lousy relationship. Yes, this is true at least i didn't stop at the wrong ones. I would have been so miserable.Thanks for the positive outlook!
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