zilverenvlinder Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I have started seeing two guys. This is very recently so I haven't expected anything as far as wanting a commitment out of either one of them at this point. Both are absolutely FANTASTIC looking, have college degrees and good jobs, and seem to be completely upstanding citizens. I've had to make a list of pros and cons for both of them and the cons side is looking very slim on both ends. Is it slutty of me to see two guys at once? Guys do it all the time. Except, it's hard for me to pick. I know which one I like better, but I don't want to get rid of either one of them until I know which one thinks of me as...well, something great. I could easily see myself with either one of them long term. I DON'T want to bring up the Relationship Talk with either one as to scare them away. Should I just wait, or would it be wrong of me to see both of them at the same time?
redant Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Are you sleeping with them? That would probably not be so great in my opinion.
Author zilverenvlinder Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 I've slept with the first one a couple of times and the other one I kind of messed around with but no intercourse.
LostLamb Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I think what you are doing is wrong. I don't understand dating more than 1 person at a time , life is complicated enough. Do they know about each other? It is time for you to choose
BubblyPopcorn Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 "This is very recently so I haven't expected anything as far as wanting a commitment out of either one of them at this point." "I could easily see myself with either one of them long term." So which is it? If you "like" one of them better as you stated in your post, then what is your main reason for continuing to date the second one? Establish that first. Lastly, just because guys do it all the time, does not mean that you have to. Sleeping with people multi-simultaneously will further complicate matters and is icky regardless.
redant Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 You need to figure out which one you want to try with. Sounds like you like both, but most likely you want one companion to build a relationship with and keep one as a friend.
movingonandon Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Ho You better decide soon, otherwise it'll blow up in your face and then you'll have neither of them. Also, guys don't "do it all the time" .
xpaperxcutx Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 There's nothing wrong with seeing two guys as long as you're certain you can find your way out of the mess once you come to your decision. It's all a part of the selection process, that's just how life is sometimes. Don't be in a hurry to decide one over the other, just enjoy your times together. Eventually one of them is going to ask you to be an official item.
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