Brady_to_Moss Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I am 20 and looking for older women. Girls my age are not mature and i want to try older. I am not old enough to go to a bar or something like that but are there diffrent places women like 25-28 go than a 20 yr old?
Citizen Erased Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I am 20 and looking for older women. Girls my age are not mature and i want to try older. I am not old enough to go to a bar or something like that but are there diffrent places women like 25-28 go than a 20 yr old? And what makes you think you are mature enough to date "older women"?
purpledevil Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Why can't you go to a bar? Is the age requirement 21? Perhaps you might want to try online dating, you can message older women, and see what they want in a partner, they may include your age bracket or not.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted January 15, 2009 Author Posted January 15, 2009 And what makes you think you are mature enough to date "older women"? Becasue i cant dates girls who live with there phone txting 24/7. Or girls who are materialistic. Girls my age cheat. See it all the time at college. Cant hold a conversation about something other that looks or...OMG did you see who she was with last night? Sorry i just need a girl who isnt into drama with everything they do.
D-Jam Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Wish I had good advice. I'd say wait til you're 21, or hit up new avenues. Every time I hear man or woman claim everyone they meet is immature, it usually ends up that they're chasing one type of man or woman and going to one type of avenue to meet them. So let's say instead of sorority party chicks, try the girl who doesn't hit up parties and maybe sits in the cafe reading a book on a Saturday night.
likestolaugh Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Becasue i cant dates girls who live with there phone txting 24/7. Or girls who are materialistic. Girls my age cheat. See it all the time at college. Cant hold a conversation about something other that looks or...OMG did you see who she was with last night? Sorry i just need a girl who isnt into drama with everything they do. you know what? That's BS. There are plenty of girls that are mature enough and are around your age. You're just not looking at the right ones.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 you know what? That's BS. There are plenty of girls that are mature enough and are around your age. You're just not looking at the right ones. Maybe it is BS but i have seen nothing to think otherwise.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 Wish I had good advice. I'd say wait til you're 21, or hit up new avenues. Every time I hear man or woman claim everyone they meet is immature, it usually ends up that they're chasing one type of man or woman and going to one type of avenue to meet them. So let's say instead of sorority party chicks, try the girl who doesn't hit up parties and maybe sits in the cafe reading a book on a Saturday night. I really never go anyplace to meet girls. I just do everyday things and have run into a few. Looking for me has never worked but just doing what i like to do has.
Citizen Erased Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Maybe it is BS but i have seen nothing to think otherwise. That would be because you're only going for the easy, hot one's. I'm your age, 21 actually. My circle of friends does not include one person like you have described. They're all gorgeous, intelligent for the most part, but good people all in all. I would not consider them friends if I couldn't hold a conversation with them. LTL had a point, are you looking at the right ones? Your aim for the older ladies is not really possible at this point as you aren't 21. Unless you plan on moving to a country with an age limit of 18, you should probably hold off until you're 21. Going out on a date with someone and not being able to buy her a drink is embarrassing and silly. In the meantime, perhaps your search will bring up someone your own age with a bit more depth to her. But you have to assess why it is that you can only see the silly vapid ones.
zenith Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 My circle of friends does not include one person like you have described. They're all gorgeous, intelligent for the most part, but good people all in all tell me more about your friends
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted January 16, 2009 Author Posted January 16, 2009 That would be because you're only going for the easy, hot one's. I tend to no go for the very attractive ones becasue i am wasting my time. They only go with good looking guys that have money. I try to go for the middle range ones yet they are just like what i described.
lazlow99 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Becasue i cant dates girls who live with there phone txting 24/7. Or girls who are materialistic. Girls my age cheat. See it all the time at college. Cant hold a conversation about something other that looks or...OMG did you see who she was with last night? Sorry i just need a girl who isnt into drama with everything they do. Yeah I can relate to what you're saying. At my University, in my circle of friends the girls I see all the time are so immature. I see cheating all the time, girls trying to mate their bfs jealous in the campus club after an argument etc. Most of them just get into relationships for the sake of it. But its not just the girls I hang around with, 90% of the guys are just as bad. Its luck of the draw really cause everyone just hangs around with the people from their halls of residence, and the more mature, reserved type people don't tend to go out as much so its difficult to meet those sorts of people. But don't think just because someones older they will be more mature. I know plenty of people in their 30s, 40s who are complete morons still.
boxing123 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I would stick to the 20 yr olds.. You can date 28 yr old women the rest of your life. I am sure 20 year olds have their faults, but they have more of an innocence, and actually are much LESS materialistic than women 25-30. Unless it is just for sex, fun, or a fling, I do not know of many older women that want to date a 18-21 yr old guy.
Jersey Shortie Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I would stick to the 20 yr olds.. You can date 28 yr old women the rest of your life. I am sure 20 year olds have their faults, but they have more of an innocence, and actually are much LESS materialistic than women 25-30. Wow, I always enjoy hearing the high opinons that the men have here of women. And they wonder why they are have trouble dating.
Alma Mobley Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Wow, I always enjoy hearing the high opinons that the men have here of women. And they wonder why they are have trouble dating. Jersey, We have our disagreements, but I think you're on the money with this one.
Alma Mobley Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I would stick to the 20 yr olds.. You can date 28 yr old women the rest of your life. I am sure 20 year olds have their faults, but they have more of an innocence, and actually are much LESS materialistic than women 25-30. Unless it is just for sex, fun, or a fling, I do not know of many older women that want to date a 18-21 yr old guy. You don't know much about women, do you? Wouldn't women 30+ be LESS materialistic, since they would have established their own careers by that point? Are you seriously saying that 20-yr-olds would be less materialistic, if they are seeking to settle down, when they could not have even possibly finished college, and therefore have no career? BTW, what do you mean by "innocent"? If you mean sex, the younger folks are having more of it than even the baby boomers, lol.
boxing123 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Well the OP stated he feels girls around 20 are materialistic. Obviously as women near 30 they are looking for more of a serious partner/provider, so they care much more about your job/income than when 20. When a man is 20 he can get by just being a student having a part time job. Obviously when I was 20 I dated women with no job, I was in school, or had a part time job... And yes, women around 30 are usually pretty bitter. What is your advice to him? Lots of women whom are 28 want to date a 20 yr old college kid? yeah right..yeah once women start working, they stop being materialistic. LMAO I am saying when they are 20 they are having fun, and these days OBVIOUSLY are not getting married at 20. Do you know anything about women?
Alma Mobley Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Well the OP stated he feels girls around 20 are materialistic. Obviously as women near 30 they are looking for more of a serious partner/provider, so they care much more about your job/income than when 20. When a man is 20 he can get by just being a student having a part time job. Obviously when I was 20 I dated women with no job, I was in school, or had a part time job... And yes, women around 30 are usually pretty bitter. What is your advice to him? Lots of women whom are 28 want to date a 20 yr old college kid? yeah right..yeah once women start working, they stop being materialistic. LMAO I am saying when they are 20 they are having fun, and these days OBVIOUSLY are not getting married at 20. Do you know anything about women? Wow, I would not characterize women over 30 "bitter." Most women I know who have not married by 30 are grad students. Why do you think women over 30 are bitter? I take it you are very young yourself - it does get easier. A 20-year-old leaping at you for a LTR or marriage probably has more materialism in mind. Women over 30 would be less inclined towards a "MAN'S MONEY" as they have established their own careers. So, I ask you, why is it "obvious" as women near 30 (or pass it) that they become more shallow and greedy -- ie materialistic.
boxing123 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Why are they bitter? They have usually dated jerks, and are less into the whole "love" ideal. At 30 they already have walls up, think you must be a jerk as well, etc. When a woman is 18-20 often times she just started dating. She jumps in head first, with far less apprehension. If you think working "career" women looking to settle down and start a family would care less about money than a 20 yr old student living off mommy and daddy, you are sadly mistaken. That does not even make logical sense. You do not think women expect a man to make more money at 30 than 20? A 20 yr old working as a part time waiter can get all the women he wants. Try that being a 30 yr old male. When you are 20 a woman's first question is never "So what is your career"
Alma Mobley Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Why are they bitter? They have usually dated jerks, and are less into the whole "love" ideal. At 30 they already have walls up, think you must be a jerk as well, etc. When a woman is 18-20 often times she just started dating. She jumps in head first, with far less apprehension. If you think working "career" women looking to settle down and start a family would care less about money than a 20 yr old student living off mommy and daddy, you are sadly mistaken. That does not even make logical sense. You do not think women expect a man to make more money at 30 than 20? A 20 yr old working as a part time waiter can get all the women he wants. Try that being a 30 yr old male. When you are 20 a woman's first question is never "So what is your career" Boxing, wow, you have a very poor opinion of women. I am sorry to hear that. Anyone who has reached the age of 30, man or woman, has dated "jerks." That makes one wiser and stronger, not weaker, and yes, more mature. And yes men should be making more money at 30, as should women. Why are we talking about college students here? I personally don't think anyone should marry until they are AT LEAST around 30, as experience kicks in. I don't know what century you are living in, but women work too. We have to go to college and get degrees, and there is no such thing as a middle-class home with a sole male bread winner, unless you are rich (which is not middle-class any longer, eh?) . If you want to marry and have a family (and I don't know if that's what you want) you better hope your wife has an education and some job skills so you can survive. Go ahead, accomplish your goals by 30+ and marry a naive 20-yr-old. She will be deadweight on you or leave you later when she wants her own career, lol. (Yes I am kidding with that ... sorta..) That a man like yourself would purposely seek out an inexperienced, uneducated woman baffles me.
Green Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 if you think women between 25-28 are going to jump at the chance to date a 20yr old guy your wrong. You'd be better off just looking for a girl you like. Seriously 25-28 women are gong to be alot more critical of you then girls your own age
boxing123 Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Green, exactly.. Alma, the post is about a 20 yr old guy thinking about dating older women. I have not met many 28 yr old women that want to date 20 year olds. Will these "career" women you keep mentioning want to date a guy with a good career whom is 30-35, or a sophomore in college whom cannot even get into a bar? How is that having a "poor opinion" of women? The post is not about myself, it is about a 20 yr old. When did I say I want to marry a 20 yr old?
Rebellious Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I am 20 and looking for older women. Girls my age are not mature and i want to try older. I am not old enough to go to a bar or something like that but are there diffrent places women like 25-28 go than a 20 yr old? 25-28?! Pffbttt, try 40+, plenty cougars on the internet, but you may not like her with her clothes off.
kashmir Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 Your best shot is to just find a girl your age who's mature. Many aren't - with most girls I feel like I'm talking to a potato that can giggle. Some DO have some sense and maturity in them, though. Out of this group, though, only a handful will be into you. So I'd say your options are to wait it out, or dumb yourself down and act like a tool to get girls in bed. Hot girls at this age like tools, down the road many of them will wise up, though.
RichGuy Posted January 17, 2009 Posted January 17, 2009 boxing123 is one of the few guys with any real experience here... it is obvious beyond any shadow of a doubt that a 30 year old woman is a billion times more materialistic/greedy/money-hungry than a 20 year old girl. The young girl is still full of idealistic ideas about love and whatnot, but the 30 year old woman is a experienced, old battle-axe that knows what it means to NOT have money in this world. Let me put it in terms that you young guys can understand: there's a reason the military is always trying to recruit young men 18, 19 -- because "old" 30 year old guys like me can easily see that the risks of the military are obviously not worth it. The same for young women. 20 year old girls don't know the risks of being poor. 30 year old women know it full well. 30 year old women are also finally aware of how precious youth is, now that they are beginning to lose it. I'd say it's best to avoid women as they reach past 25 -- that's when they start to develop that knowing, experienced look that is a repellent to guys on the other side of 30. To the 20 year old OP, Brady_to_Moss, find a nice 17 year old girl, and spend some money on her, and both of you will have a very good time. Enjoy each other's innocence.
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