Rain5 Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I knew this girl for 3yrs.We go to the same school for language class and we both are in the same class (Saturdays only). We go to different day schools. We were just like normal classmates in the first yr. 2nd we became good friends. We sit beside each other and she tells me a lot about herself, and I tell her a lot about myself too. I started to like her and I talk to her all the time during class and sometimes on the cell ( like once every 2 weeks or so, cuz my cell is pay as you go). My classmates knew that I like her and they hinted her in the joking way and im not sure what her responds were ( didn’t know til someone told me). During 08summer, I couldn’t contact her because I was busy and she was busy as well, cuz her aunt has cancer (she told me about this after the summer)First class of the school yr, she was late for class and i thought maybe she wouldnt come since i havent talk to her for 2 months. So i put my bag beside my desk. She did come to class after 10 mins and she was like " what do u mean by that?". I saw my bag. i was like " my bad" and i moved my bag and she sat beside me. In 08 winter, back to school and as usual.Then I decided to ask her if she wanted to come to my b-day party and she said yes. I didn’t invite her friends cuz I don’t know them that well. The party were just my friends (guys and girls) . She was the last person to come to my party. I also walk w/ her all the time after class. then her parents would pick her up. So i was in a bad mood one week, n i was flirting with my close female friend n somewhat ignored her. so she stopped walking w/ me for 2 weeks. After we walked together again. And then in December, I asked her if she will go to prom/formal with me. I gave her a teddy bear with a card on it saying “Prom?” . I also gave her a necklace and asked if she can wear this on that day. She said yes and she said we could hang out sometime during the Christmas break, if shes not goin to the states during the break . I called her a few times after that and we talked. So then I called her just b4 the break n she told me she goin to the states. I told her that I was goin to ask her if she wants to go to downtown for countdown. So then I told her to have fun in the states. After I hung up, I realized I didn’t tell her to watch out for the snowstorm the next day cuz shes leaving the next day. So I sent her a text message. No responds so I thought maybe shes busy packing (cuz she did tell me shes has to pack). On xmas day, I sent her another text msg saying merry xmas. No responds and I thought its ok too cuz shes in the states, maybe she doesn’t have her phone with her. Then rite at 12:00am jan 1st09, sent her another text msg saying happy new yr, asked her hows her trip andtold her that ill see her next week at school. Then on the next Saturday, while we chat, she told me she didn’t go cuz the snowstorm delayed her plane twice (2 snowstorms) and she didn’t bother to go since ½ of the holiday is gone already. She also told me that she has exams after the holidays (she had one on Friday, the day b4). Now im abit confused. I don’t really know what she’s thinking. I thought if she stayed in town, maybe she could have replied or even call me. But then since she has exams, i guess shes busy. But I don’t know if she is really that busy (study over the holidays everyday). What should I do? Continue my approach or should I give up?What is she thinking?
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I am having a hell of a time deciphering that whole thing. Have you ever heard of paragraphs? When you start a new thought, generally a new paragraph would be helpful. I felt like I was reading a continuous streaming thought coming straight from your brain. It was a major test to forcibly control my ADD just to get through it. But anyway...it really wasn't clear. So I'm going to have to ask questions before I can say for sure what could be going on with her... So you asked her to prom in December and she said yes. Did you already have prom? Or is that coming up soon? So when in December did you ask her? And if prom was in December, WHEN was it? Then she was supposed to go home for Christmas break (to the states...I assume you're in the UK or something???), but didn't because of weather. You texted her a couple times over that break but she never texted back. Have you previously had a strong texting and phone relationship? Because it sounded to me (again - hard to decipher) like you only really talked to each other at school. Has she responded to your texts in the past? And if she had major tests coming up in her classes, it's quite possible she wanted to put aside whatever this "thing" is with you so she could focus on studying. Also - you never stated how old you two are. Are you in high school or college? More details and paragraphs would make your posts a lot easier to give advice on.
Geishawhelk Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 ....I second this. Also, please don't "Text-speak".... use common-usage english. We're not short of space here. From what I can decipher.... she's just not into you. I'd cool it and let her do the running. If you hear nothing within a week, consider it a buddy thing.
Miss Ting Posted January 20, 2009 Posted January 20, 2009 I am having a hell of a time deciphering that whole thing. Have you ever heard of paragraphs? When you start a new thought, generally a new paragraph would be helpful. I felt like I was reading a continuous streaming thought coming straight from your brain. It was a major test to forcibly control my ADD just to get through it. OMG! I nearly pissed myself laughing because I was thinking the SAME exact thing when reading (or attempting to read).
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