ans562 Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I know I already posted this before, but I thought I might get more responses with a more interesting title. I met a girl last August in Tanzania. We were both volunteers with an organization called Cross Cultural Solutions. I was working with AIDS patients and she was working with school children. We got along very well and I found myself very attracted to her. I had my heart broken a year earlier and was reluctant to make a move. She, however, helped me out with the problem herself as she basically made me kiss her. I really wanted to and had no problem with this at all. We spent our last week in Tanzania acting almost like a couple, aside from the fact that we didn't let everyone except our closest friends know. When I returned home she had one more month to her stay. She called me everyday from Africa, sometimes twice. When she returned home we had made plans for her to come and visit me in Santa Barbara as she lives in San Francisco. We spent two wonderful days together and upon her departure made plans for me to go and visit her the weekend before Thanksgiving which was three weeks later. A week before I went to visit her she had expressed feelings of being scared about how everything would turn out. I assured her that nothing had to happen I just really wanted to see her and be near her. I should mention that while in Tanzania she had broken up with her boyfriend of four years whom she was living with back in San Francisco. He is twenty years older than her and was also a millionaire. I did wonder what she saw in me in the first place. When I visited everything went wonderfully we hung out ate dinner and she even convinced me to break our agreement that nothing physical would happen. I'll admit it didn't take much convincing. The night before I left I was going to stay with her, but she suddenly changed her mind and told me I should go stay with a friend as she wanted to be alone and needed time to think. I wanted to give her as much space as she needed and complied. We spoke on the phone for a couple weeks after that. Two weeks after I left she informed me that she was going to visit her brother in Italy for a week. She told me she would call me after she returned. Two weeks went by and I finally called her. She then would make some pretty lame excuses to get off the phone with me every time I called her. I told her that I expected nothing from her and that she should not feel any pressure from me at all. The one thing I asked of her was to let me know how she felt and to let me know if anything changed with her. She has not called since returning from Italy a month ago. I have called her a couple of times and let her know that I missed talking to her. I am really wondering what happened. Do you guys think I should call her and be blunt with her? I am not going to ask her to stay. I don't want her to feel trapped or anything of that nature. I just want to know how she is feeling and what changed with her. I am really confused. Please help me out.
hoartiosans Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Just wait it out, if she said she'd let you know, than that's all you can really do except hope and pray.
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