What's the Strangest or Dumbest Reason you've ever been broken up with over?

January 15, 2009

Recently my first girlfriend dumped me for what I view as a stupid reason (She literally woke up one morning and decided she "needed" to marry a minister ) and other than making me feel angry and worthless, it got me wondering...

What's the strangest or dumbest or just the most infuriating reason you've ever been broken up with over?

January 15, 2009

My first love, of 13 months, wouldn't admit why she broke up with me.

I went to her friends and put a lot of pressure on them individually to tell me why the hell my ex broke up with me.

They said:

"She thought you were TOO perfect. Therefor, you must've been hiding something/lying."

/facepalm

January 16, 2009

A girl once broke up with me because she said she couldn't stand being away from me. Like when I went to work/school/whatever she couldn't do anything. That one had me confused as hell.

January 16, 2009

My first love, of 13 months, wouldn't admit why she broke up with me.

I went to her friends and put a lot of pressure on them individually to tell me why the hell my ex broke up with me.

They said:

"She thought you were TOO perfect. Therefor, you must've been hiding something/lying."

/facepalm

LOL dude I chuckled while drinking water at 3 AM

January 16, 2009

My last ex said she felt condescended to because I talked a lot about political philosophy and law school. Eventually it escalated from "I feel bad the way you talk to me" to "you are verbally abusive."

To this day I have never directed ANY foul language to her (except after the break up I called her the B word once).

/end facepalm

January 16, 2009

My very first love dumped me on holiday, down at his mum's place in Bournemouth, Uk.

His reason?

Really?

He didn't think we were compatible because we liked different children's names.

January 16, 2009

My very first love dumped me on holiday, down at his mum's place in Bournemouth, Uk.

His reason?

Really?

He didn't think we were compatible because we liked different children's names.

LMAO. Know that your pain back then manages to bring me much needed laughter today!

January 16, 2009

I know!! I mean, what's wrong with Agamemnon for a little girl and Daisy-Rue for a little boy....?

It's a tough dog-eat-dog world out there!!

January 16, 2009

It's amazing what people will come up with to get out of a relationship...I mean wow...

January 16, 2009

I enjoy this thread.

My most recent ex broke up with me because

"we have to many differences"

We fought 0 times ever about anything.

Girls are dumb sometimes lol

January 16, 2009

I enjoy this thread.

My most recent ex broke up with me because

"we have to many differences"

We fought 0 times ever about anything.

Girls are dumb sometimes lol

i think EVERY SINGLE GIRL thinks this when they feel like relationship has lost its spark. "We just don't match" or "we have too many differences" or "we're just too different."

ughh what 2 people are not different????

January 16, 2009

i think EVERY SINGLE GIRL thinks this when they feel like relationship has lost its spark. "We just don't match" or "we have too many differences" or "we're just too different."

ughh what 2 people are not different????

I hate, "We're not meant to be," or "I don't think we'll work," it's like, now all of a sudden they're a psychic?

January 16, 2009

i think EVERY SINGLE GIRL thinks this when they feel like relationship has lost its spark. "We just don't match" or "we have too many differences" or "we're just too different."

ughh what 2 people are not different????

"we have to many differences"

We fought 0 times ever about anything.

Girls are dumb sometimes lol

Argh. I've broken up with guys for this same reason, and it's legitimate. You don't have to FIGHT to know that you have too many differences to make you compatible long-term. Mature adults can see this without resorting to "fighting."

In fact, the last guy I dated (actually, just one date but LOTS of talking) and ended things with ended for this very same reason - we had too many differences, despite getting along famously. I just knew we wouldn't be a good fit for one another.

Perhaps women are better at figuring this out, sooner rather than later because men are thinking with their other brain.

As for me, I was dumped because I required the use of a condom during our first time together. Whatev.

January 16, 2009

Oh good, your a psychic too. You have to try if you care about someone, I guess that logic makes sense for young relationships but you don't date someone long-term, then decide the are too many difference, you would think you would try to know that early on. And I agree you don't have to fight to know there are differences, but it takes a lifetime to really know someone, you can't know there are too many differences, to know that you have to really know the person, and that can't be achieved in a handful of dates.

January 16, 2009

Oh good, your a psychic too. You have to try if you care about someone, I guess that logic makes sense for young relationships but you don't date someone long-term, then decide the are too many difference, you would think you would try to know that early on. And I agree you don't have to fight to know there are differences, but it takes a lifetime to really know someone, you can't know there are too many differences, to know that you have to really know the person, and that can't be achieved in a handful of dates.

Actually, after a few dates you CAN know if there are too many differences... and you do NOT have to try to FORCE a relationship under those circumstances.

Perhaps they like to party and rage 5 nights a week, and you don't.

Perhaps they like to sit on the couch every night to unwind, whereas you need to be active.

Perhaps you've observed them being rude to waiters or family members, whereas you're kind to everyone you meet.

Perhaps they're only interested in pop culture, whereas you thrive on intellectual conversation on politics, economics, and theology.

Perhaps they have no interest in seeing the world, and all you want to do is travel.

Perhaps you know they don't want children, and you do.

Perhaps you know they are a Bible thumper, and you are athiest.

January 16, 2009

Slightly off-topic but this thread made me realize I've always gotten dumped for the same reason:

"I don't want to be in a long distance relationship".

It's not a dumb reason to dump someone, I concur. But it's made me realize I need to stop moving around so much.

January 16, 2009

Not always, but most often, there are underlying reasons why people get dumped, not so much the reason given. The person pulling the trigger, might well be protecting your feelings, trying to avoid having to take the negative drama or just plain don't know what the root cause of it is, allocating it to dumb reasons.

January 16, 2009

No you shouldn't force a relationship, what I am saying is that those difference cannot be absolutely confirmed a week or two into a relationship, maybe some people bear their soul in the first couple of weeks, but I guess all I know is how I feel about this issue. There are instances where I agree with ending a relationships early on, certain one's like, "Perhaps you've observed them being rude to waiters or family members, whereas you're kind to everyone you meet," and " Perhaps you know they are a Bible thumper, and you are athiest," are more important than "Perhaps they're only interested in pop culture, whereas you thrive on intellectual conversation on politics, economics, and theology," though I can understand why those differences are too much for some people, it just seems shallow to me.

January 16, 2009

are more important than "Perhaps they're only interested in pop culture, whereas you thrive on intellectual conversation on politics, economics, and theology," though I can understand why those differences are too much for some people, it just seems shallow to me.

You've got to be kidding me.

You'll find that if someone bores you silly, you're not going to have a great relationship. Talk about differences in life perspectives!

January 16, 2009

I'm saying there's more to it than that, it depends on who you are I guess. But that is just the way I feel, some people feel that's important, I just don't. You have to move past differences and find things in common, if the differences are that numerous than you should end it. All I was saying is that it takes more than one date to find this stuff out, and that you shouldn't make those kind of decisions that quickly and irrationally based on one or two differences.

January 16, 2009

No you shouldn't force a relationship, what I am saying is that those difference cannot be absolutely confirmed a week or two into a relationship, maybe some people bear their soul in the first couple of weeks, but I guess all I know is how I feel about this issue. There are instances where I agree with ending a relationships early on, certain one's like, "Perhaps you've observed them being rude to waiters or family members, whereas you're kind to everyone you meet," and " Perhaps you know they are a Bible thumper, and you are athiest," are more important than "Perhaps they're only interested in pop culture, whereas you thrive on intellectual conversation on politics, economics, and theology," though I can understand why those differences are too much for some people, it just seems shallow to me.

It's not shallow to find yourself incompatible with someone who has no interest in the things you do. And it's not difficult to find out those differences within a date or two.

If someone makes it clear to me at the outset that they have absolutely no interest in the same things I am, I already know we're not compatible. How can I learn this? For example:

Me: "It's really unfortunate that Obama has to deal with the Israel/Hamas crisis as soon as he's inaugurated."

Dude: (Blank stare.)

Me: "Do you know what I'm talking about?"

Dude: "Nah, and I don't really care either. On the other hand, did you see the new judge on American Idol? She's hot!"

Me: (Thinking: Yeah, this won't work.)

Even if it's just the fact that they're addicted to pop culture and make no bones about having no clue or interest in what's going on ourside of Hollywood, I certainly can tell when someone's "too different" to be compatible.

You've got to be kidding me.

You'll find that if someone bores you silly, you're not going to have a great relationship. Talk about differences in life perspectives!

No joke! It's not shallow to not want to date someone who's... BORING.

January 16, 2009

I'm saying there's more to it than that, it depends on who you are I guess. But that is just the way I feel, some people feel that's important, I just don't. You have to move past differences and find things in common, if the differences are that numerous than you should end it. All I was saying is that it takes more than one date to find this stuff out, and that you shouldn't make those kind of decisions that quickly and irrationally based on one or two differences.

It doesn't take more than one date when the things that are important to you are identified during that first date. For me, intellectual curiosity is an absolute MUST. The dude above clearly doesn't have that.

And you can, and should, cut the cord sooner than later when you KNOW it won't work. It's certainly not irrational to know what you're looking for, and what you're not, and move on when you identify it in someone else.

January 16, 2009

I'm saying there's more to it than that, it depends on who you are I guess. But that is just the way I feel, some people feel that's important, I just don't. You have to move past differences and find things in common, if the differences are that numerous than you should end it. All I was saying is that it takes more than one date to find this stuff out, and that you shouldn't make those kind of decisions that quickly and irrationally based on one or two differences.

If someone bores me after the first date, the second date isn't going to happen. It doesn't make either one of us bad people. We just have different interests and priorities. Someone who's solely focused on pop culture, is someone who's not in tune with reality. I need someone who wants to make a difference in the world, whether with their vote, charity work, taking a stance on key issues or best yet, all of the above.

January 16, 2009

It doesn't take more than one date when the things that are important to you are identified during that first date. For me, intellectual curiosity is an absolute MUST. The dude above clearly doesn't have that.

And you can, and should, cut the cord sooner than later when you KNOW it won't work. It's certainly not irrational to know what you're looking for, and what you're not, and move on when you identify it in someone else.

No it's not irrational to know what you're looking for I'm not debating that, I agree if you don't like the person it's best to end it early, to prevent unnecessary pain. I just think it should be more than just deciding it's not going to work, then actually seeing if it will, seems like an awful waste of love. None of you agree with me, I get that and I can see why you feel that way, I just care more about if their interested in confiding in me, or talking about their day, than I am them being interested in politics or fashion or whatever other crap you can name off, I'm not looking for a pal, and there are things I won't bend for and that I wouldn't be with someone over, I just like to give them a chance to prove me wrong, I wouldn't ever let it go on and on though. I just feel I CANNOT, KNOW, For sure, that this person can't be what I need in a week.

Go ahead, tell me I'm an idiot now.

January 16, 2009

Actually, after a few dates you CAN know if there are too many differences... and you do NOT have to try to FORCE a relationship under those circumstances.

Perhaps they like to party and rage 5 nights a week, and you don't.
Perhaps they like to sit on the couch every night to unwind, whereas you need to be active.
Perhaps you've observed them being rude to waiters or family members, whereas you're kind to everyone you meet.
Perhaps they're only interested in pop culture, whereas you thrive on intellectual conversation on politics, economics, and theology.
Perhaps they have no interest in seeing the world, and all you want to do is travel.
Perhaps you know they don't want children, and you do.
Perhaps you know they are a Bible thumper, and you are athiest.

Ok, and this is fine. But is it entirely impossible for one to change? I use to not want to get married at all, and NEVER have kids. But during my relationship it opened my eyes to something greater and I started to realize those things wouldn't seem so bad. I guess I'm disagreeing with you, yeah differences sure but at the same time I still think its possible for people to work this crap out if they truly love each other. Relationships = compromise

NOT the ability to find someone exactly like you. People are unique for a reason.

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