ATR Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I am very gratefull for all the support and its been great getting advice from lovely people. I have become abit addicited to browsing these forums, and its making my healing take longer than it should, i just need to forget now. I will come back to these forums in the near future (hopefully in "dating":laugh:), when i have completely recovered. Once again thanks everyone!
Tony Posted January 15, 2009 Senior Moderators Posted January 15, 2009 Indeed if you feel being in these forums is hampering your healing process, you should stay away for as long as it takes. However, I hope you will take more of the responsibility in this area and assign less to an Internet forum designed to assist.
lonelygurl Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I'm sorry you feel this way. I find it very helpful to be here and find people going through the same thing. It can make the nights that I feel completely alone not so alone. I find I don't read all of the posts because some can be stressful, therefore I do stick to ones that are similar to my own situation. I find some people really do try to speed the healing process along much quicker than it really is suppose to. I don't really understand why that is. I also don't understand why they feel they need to be in a relationship so quickly, but I guess they feel that will end the pain sooner, but I think overall that just keeps the cycle going around and around. But I do have to admit I am in my 40's now and it has taken a very long time for me to realize this. Best of luck to you.
JamesM Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 While I understand your point, not everyone feels that LS "makes" them feel as you do. I know that if a certain problem is on my mind and I keep rehashing it over and over, then it stays a problem. So if LS keeps the problem in your mind simply because you keep thinking of it, then I agree. Moving on is best for now.
IcemanJB Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I'm kind of in the same boat as the OP. I've learned so much, and gotten so much help here; but it's at the point where I think I'm better off not going on here much anymore...
LostLamb Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I kind of understand how you feel. I keep seeing people talking about how their ex contacted them or new tales about breaking up/dating problems ,it keeps reminding me of my failed relationship. LS is full of good advice though .
hoartiosans Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I Understand how ATR feels, When I was dumped, this place made me feel good, but after I started to feel a little better, and I was able not to think about her 24/7 coming here just brings her back up into my mind preventing me from focusing on other things and moving on fully. But I will say when I'm feeling my worst coming here helped, understanding that others knew how I felt, saved me from myself, and helped me be confident that I could be happy again. So it's been bitter sweet at times.
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 i was beginning to feel the same as ATR until today. baaaaaaaaaaaad day. this place is great though. but there does come a point IMO where instead of helping you to stop hurting, it reminds you why you're hurting. but i'll keep using the site as long as i need to to help me move on. turns out i need it today.........
hoartiosans Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Yeah, I kinda had a relapse last night after I had been feeling really good all day, all week really...I've been on LS all day since last night.
EmperorR Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 I surf loveshack all the time, mostly just read, I wish I found this forum long long ago. Even now I'm almost over my ex, but I still come back to read post, help out when I can.
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