onemorecupofcoffee Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I'm just getting back into dating after a breakup, and this very cute guy I've only met a couple times (professional setting only) asks me out of the blue if I want to hang out. I tell him sure, and ask what he had in mind. He casually says he didn't have anything in mind, just a movie or something. To me, that says friend. Still weird, because before he asked, our relationship was purely professional. When we meet at the the theater, I'm a little late and he has already bought my ticket. This, to me, says date. We both forego snacks, make pleasant small talk and laugh before the movie. There is not a lot of talking and NO touching during the movie. But he does bring out a bottle of Vitamin Water and (this sounds silly) tells me I can have some. So we share that, which I guess is... ?? See I have no idea. Thinking back, I hope he wasn't grossed out that I didn't waterfall...? haha. After the movie we walk around and talk and laugh a little, but it turns out he's just following me because he thought I knew where I was going, when in fact I was completely lost. He was trying to walk me to my car. So he helps me find my car and walks me to is. He mentions that there is a video he needs help on, and since I know about that stuff I offer to help him. He invites me over this coming weekend to work on it and I agree. Awkward hug goodbye. I enjoyed the conversation: perfect mix of laughter and tidbits of information and blushing (maybe that was just me). A small part of me thinks maybe he did this so I would help him with the video, but I made it clear before this whole thing even started that I would be available to help him with tech-y things like that at no charge, so this movie thing was unnecessary. Especially since our relationship was professional to begin with. So what do you think? I kind of jumped the gun a little and asked him if he wanted to have lunch this Friday, and he said sure. Later, he asked if I thought it would be okay if I helped him with the video then he'd treat me to lunch afterward. Again, the first part seems like friend, but treating me to lunch seems like date? He seemed open to hanging out more, even after the video thing was done. I just really hope he's not doing this as "payment" for my helping him? It's really unnecessary and if he's not interested, I'd rather just help him and NOT hang out haha. Harsh as that might sound.
zenith Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 it was a date oh wait, may be it wasn't.... or was it? I don't know... but that vitamin water thing sure sounds awesome! btw, what movie did you guys watch?
Author onemorecupofcoffee Posted January 15, 2009 Author Posted January 15, 2009 it was a date oh wait, may be it wasn't.... or was it? I don't know... but that vitamin water thing sure sounds awesome! btw, what movie did you guys watch? Wow, SO not helpful We saw Curious Case of Benjamin Button. Great movie, but long. Pitt cute as ever!
prettybaby Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 You've got to be blind; it was clearly a date lol He may be clumsy about it, but he definitely likes you. Guys don't just randomly ask a girl out to a movie, pay for her ticket, walk her to her car, then try to hang out with her at a future point. It was a date, so make sure you don't give him any false hopes; unless of course you're interested in him.
zenith Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 We saw Curious Case of Benjamin Button. Great movie, but long. Pitt cute as ever! yep it was a date
fivefive Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 yes that was a date. maybe not so much 4 u, but def. for him. i'm a guy and i usually ask someone out to see a movie or hangout if i am interested in them.
Bells Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I'm just getting back into dating after a breakup, and this very cute guy I've only met a couple times (professional setting only) asks me out of the blue if I want to hang out. I think the first mistake guys make when asking a woman out is referring it to as, "Would you like to 'hang out'."
lovingalways Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 I think the first mistake guys make when asking a woman out is referring it to as, "Would you like to 'hang out'." LMAO You're soooo right about this!!! I usually have to clarify and ask "You mean go out or hang out?! :confused:" LOL... It was a date. And don't worry, I get confused about these things all the time (when I forget to clarify LOL).
Bells Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 LMAO You're soooo right about this!!! I usually have to clarify and ask "You mean go out or hang out?! :confused:" LOL... It was a date. And don't worry, I get confused about these things all the time (when I forget to clarify LOL). Yeah, I had a seriously embarassing experience when I asked a woman out, she agreed to it....then she called me back the day after to ask me...."When you asked me out, did you mean as a friend or as a date?" And I said, "Well, I thought it was for a date" And she goes, "eeeehh....well...about that.....you're a nice guy, but I don't think of you in that way." Ouch.
lovingalways Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Yeah, I had a seriously embarassing experience when I asked a woman out, she agreed to it....then she called me back the day after to ask me...."When you asked me out, did you mean as a friend or as a date?" And I said, "Well, I thought it was for a date" And she goes, "eeeehh....well...about that.....you're a nice guy, but I don't think of you in that way." Ouch. Ouch!!! Sorry to hear that. I don't get why guys call it "hanging out"? Why don't they just say "Do you want to go out with me?" I get seriously confused by this. Recently, a guy asked me to go out with him - we're really good friends and we have been hanging out for the past 3 yrs, but now everything has changed since we revealed how we feel about each other - but when he asked me whether I want to go out, I couldn't help but think "You mean hang out like we always do or actually go out?! :confused:" I didn't ask him because I thought I would look dumb so I'm still confused LOL...
Tomcat33 Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Not so fast! You said he needed help with a video, whatever that means, did he know you had expertiese in "video" before he asked you out? Or had you ever discussed that aspect, did he know you could do that?
Author onemorecupofcoffee Posted January 15, 2009 Author Posted January 15, 2009 Haha thanks for all your responses! And agree with ouch on that last one... When I say we had a professional relationship before, I mean I used to tutor HTML/SEO, but both of us got really busy and stopped the lessons. So he knew I had some techy skills. He probably could have guessed I *might* know video stuff, but we'd never talked about video before, only HTML. I don't think he knew for sure I could help him until after the movie was over and we got to talking about it.
Tomcat33 Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Well then I think it is safe to say this guy is genuinely interested in you. So get ready for date number 2.
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