Kage111 Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Its been 3 months since the break up of 4 years together, and I've finally had time to think. I don't know how I didn't realize it, but my ex and I did not really make any sense together. I'm finishing up getting my degree in engineering, and she's been going to college two years now, changed her major twice, and has failed over half of her classes. I'm not all "study-study", but she definitely parties waaaay too much... But no matter what I do, I can't get over her. I see other girls, beautiful girls, and I feel nothing for them. I ignore them because for some reason, I only want my ex. Hard to forget her, I see her everywhere I go. She lives only two floors below me, she eats at the same places, and sometimes we pass on our way to classes. I know we're not the same... but I want us to be together... Is 3 months too soon to move on? Is this normal?
durotto Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 yes it is ... it will take more time for you to forget her .. btw who made the decision .. I guess her .. If it was her then she has decided to move on and go with someone else .. I do not think that when someone makes a decision and is happy with that then you can bring that person back .. You will miss her .. but you need to focus on yourself . maybe get a higher degree or focus on your career and yourself .. do something fun ..
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Of course it's normal to feel this way friend. But 3 months can be enough time to move on. I got a new gf 3 months after my break up. (Aka, I asked the girl out January 11th. Been dating for a few days now LOL). Although I do have some lingering feelings for my ex, of course, they aren't as strong as the feelings for the new girl. Thus why I asked her out. It's all about how you feel.
pushforward Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 In all honesty, you feel what you feel. Nobody is exactly the same. Coming out of a long term relationship and only being 3 months out of it, isn't exactly a huge amount of time. You still have lingering feelings and they may always be there, but the pain will subside however. Just stick to your guns and work through the pain. Use everything in life as motivation to get better and be better. Healing isn't linear. If you don't feel like you're ready to date, then don't. Take some time off from dating, gain some perspective on life. A few things I learned through this heart break. Take time off dating to find myself. Dating isn't everything. Sometimes things don't work out, but things always happen as the way they should, never as planned. If you feel you aren't ready for it, you aren't ready for it. Stop comparing the ex with any new girls, everybody is different in their unique way and what you had irreplaceable, doesn't mean you'll love less or love more, just differently. Just figure out what you want in life and go after it!
vulcan Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 man, eveyone is different it has been a year for me and I amstill having isues with letting go of the ex. It is hard but just do what ya got to do fellwhat ya got to fell and let TIME TME TIME work on it thats the only thing that will help. The sucky part id even with all the time in the world you will never forget but you will eventualy find a peace about it for yourself. If you are having or struggling very hard perhaps seeing a therapist will help
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