EmperorR Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 Well this weekend I'm going away to spend the weekend with my "friend", we both like each other, and I asked her out, but then she moved back to school before I had to opportunity to take it, well i'm going to visit her this weekend. She lives 3 hours away by train in some small little town so not only will i be spending it with her, it will be a place I've never been to in my life. I've been talking to this girl for months, she knows everything all about my cheating ex, and yet she never pulled away or felt weird or got angry when I needed to vent or someone to talk to. She told me she liked me and I tried to push her farther away because I was scared of ever developing feelings for another woman so soon (even though its been like 5 months), well slowly I'm falling for her. I'm scared nervous as I haven't really talked in depth face to face with another girl besides my ex for the past 3 years (ya i was pathetic). Not only that, this is the first time since like the summer I'll be going out, I was a recluse for so long shunning society like a hunchback just work home work home, so this is a major big step for me. I don't know what to expect but i'm excited about the possibilities, I haven't thought about my ex this whole week, it's like i have to force myself to remember her in my mind. I'm I 100% over my Ex I don't know but I guess this weekend I shall find out. Wish me luck my fellow coping buddies.
gldngirl Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 New possibilites are always exciting! I hope things work out for you!
ahhhchooo Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 It sounds great, I hope it all goes well for you, I'm glad. Just try not to invest in this girl too much as your key to happiness. If you're anything like I was, that's exactly what the ex represented by the end of our relationship - and when it broke, of course, it sucked big time.
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 15, 2009 Posted January 15, 2009 dude! best of luck, hope it all works out for you!
Author EmperorR Posted January 18, 2009 Author Posted January 18, 2009 Weekend went great really great. Ah I didn't think about my ex once, it get really good to be happy again. I'm now wondering wth I was doing staying with my ex all that time. My ex parents Hated me more than anything, and I met this girls parents this weekend and they love me already. Just small things like that it felt strange hearing what do you want to do instead of always be told where when how etc., I know it's not good to compare but of really opened my eyes, it felt good to be able to talk without havun to only listen. I always wrote short little funny stories and not once in 3 years my ex ever wanted to hear any, but this girl couldn't get enough of it. Will everything work out with this girl I don't know, but it does show me that there are better women in the world who I'm More compatible with.
burningashes Posted January 19, 2009 Posted January 19, 2009 I'm happy for you, dude Here's a tip tho, stop talking about your ex with the new girl. I personally would get sick of hearing about the ex. Your thoughts should be 100% bent on this girl and you'll be much happier for it Keep us updated on the progress!
Author EmperorR Posted January 21, 2009 Author Posted January 21, 2009 Thanks, and yep I messed up earlier but I cut out mentioning or even thinking about my ex. I know it may not mean anything to alot of people but after being hated by parents for 3 years disrespected time and time again, it feels so good to not be hated and to be welcome
Intergalactic Posted January 21, 2009 Posted January 21, 2009 that's so great! i can see half of us who were all dumped around the same time are starting to move on and doesn't it feel good?! it makes me feel good just seeing how great some of these people are doing! yeah, i'm a mush ball good luck with your "friend", i'm sure you'll charm her! she sounds great, it's lovely to know you were able to confide in her about your ex and the cheating and that she didn't run away... we all have baggage, and it's so comforting to know it won't just turn everyone away! have a great time
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