makinitmine Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Alright so I've been seeing this girl for about a week and I wanted her to get to know me before finding out that I was previously married and have a daughter. Some background on my situation. I am 22 years old and I got married when I was 20 to this girl that had a daughter (and for those who have forgotten and/or didn't know the original story I posted on here here is a link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=160273). So anyways even though she isn't my biological daughter I have been there since she was 10 months old and I've the only father she has ever known and I love her like my own and what not and even though me and my ex wife aren't together I still am the father figure for this girl. With that being said back to my current situation. So I started seeing this girl about a week ago like I said. And I didn't tell her about me being married or my daughter because we're young (she's 20) and I didn't want her to close the door on anything before she got to know me and stuff. So anyways we have been seeing each other for about a week and I was just wondering when you guys thought I should tell her about me being married and my daughter. Whether I should just go ahead and tell her, wait a while, etc. Any and all advice you could give would be great
birdie Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 how much conversation have you two had about previous life/relationships already? is she quite open to talk about things like that?
Author makinitmine Posted January 14, 2009 Author Posted January 14, 2009 we've had a bit of conversation about past relationships of different kinds
2sure Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Since you are so young, previous marriages have probably not come up in conversation -so it isnt as though you have lied. A week is not much time, as far as full disclosure. A week doesnt obligate you to tell your life's story to anyone. However, if you are talking for hours every day about every other aspect of your life...it may seem to her that you lied by omission. If you are telling her everything about yourself already - you tell her now. If the relationship is casual and just dating, you can certainly wait. A week?
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