rebe84 Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 So I'm a college student and about month ago I met my now ex who went to another college about an hour south of me. When we met everything clicked and it was like magic. We were so incredibly happy but my ex at the time during our dating term wanted to see me everyday..he even suggested me moving to his college town so that he could see me all the time because he said thats what he wanted. I hesitated because I like my space. We spent winter break together and had beautiful times together but as soon as he started back up in school again he started to get very busy because he is an engineering student as well as an crew sport team player of the college. So somedays I would hardly hear from him because he got so busy. He would tell me the distance was killing him and every time he thought about how much he missed me..he would be in horrible pain. He broke up with because he said he couldnt handle the stress of the relationship with school and sports. He said he thought he could handle it but he said he couldn't. He broke my heart and my heart is still breaking because I miss him alot. I don't want to loose him because he's such a wonderful guy only he thinks he isn't anymore because he hurt me. When he brokeup with me..he was yelling and so angry..and told he doesn't love me anymore but that he loves me as a person. He also started crying and so did I. How can you tell someone you love them in a relationship..then after a breakup tell that person you don't love them anymore? Is there a chance to get back together with him? He also told me if he ever wanted me back, I had every right to tell him to beep off. He was so angry when he broke up with me and told me the night before he got into a fight with a guy partially because of me and that he didn't want to loose me. I'm just wondering why he would tell me something like that. He also had told me that if I met someone else he would be happy for me but would be very jealous and doesn't want to date anyone right now or for a long time. He said he needed some time and would talk to me later to see how I'm doing with everything and wanted to rehash about the breakup. I have done the no contact thing out of respect of his space but its hard. I miss him so much and I want him back in my life. He hasn't contacted me at all. Its only been two days. I guess I'm seeking advice for anyone that can give me hope in this situation.
malika Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Your ex sounds insecure about himself. (It reminds me of my ex in many regards). He is clearly needy and wants the relationship to be all or nothing. He seems to have flipped the cards quite abruptly, going from needing you around all the time to not having time for you at all. If he really is anything like my ex (which he sounds very much so), I have my bets he will come back. He doesn't know what he wants; but you are ultimately the focus of his life. The clear flags that he is still in love with you are that he is not ready to let you go, not ready himself to move on, told you he doesn't want to lose you, etc. Somebody's feelings don't change that quickly. But just be forewarned that his behavior sounds a bit unstable, and could cause issues in the future should you two get back together. But I've been and still am in your boat, so I know how upsetting it can be with his mixed messages. Good luck, and I hope it all works out!
BCCA Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Everything he said to you was classic breakup BS. As youve found out yourself, a lot of his remarks were nonsensical. I couldnt tell you if he'll ever come back, but I can tell you that he's not the one for you.
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