DaisyLV Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I know how this is going to sound to most, but here goes...I've been married for 18 years but it has been very bumpy to say the least. I have never cheated nor thought about it until recently. I out of the blue met someone that I went through with it; we spent 2 nights together one of which turned into a sexual encounter. He discussed when we could see each other again and have more time together but was also weary of how this could turn out if we were to keep this going. Since then he won't even return my phone calls. Just wondering if there are any thoughts out there as to what might be going on in his head? He's either "just not that into me" or scared. We had a lot in common and had some great conversation so I don't believe it was "just" about sex.
Adunaphel Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 It sounds very much like the behaviour of someone who welcomed the time spent together and the sex, but does not want strings attached. Is he single? He discussed when we could see each other again and have more time together but was also weary of how this could turn out if we were to keep this going. Was he worried about developing feelings for you, or just worried about getting caught? Did he ask you anything at all about your marriage?
birdie Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I think when you are in a marriage for a very long time, you are in an insular world and your BS detection skills become rusty when it comes to dating. it's possible that he just used you for sex. on the other hand: you are obviously unhappy, married therefore commited in another relationship and clearly you don't know what you want. why would anyone want to hang around and get involved?
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