WA28 Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I could have sworn that I posted this earlier tonight but I don't see it. I'll do my best to rewrite it again. Here goes: I dated a girl for three years in college and we just recently broke up in May. She did somethings that were inexcusable in any relationship and I found out about them and dumped her flat on her head on our three year anniversary. I started No Contact immediately after we broke up as a means to heal and move on. I went through a rough patch the first part of the summer. Then, I started to go out more and date other girls and I slowly but surely got myself to where I am today. I still love her, however, I'm fine without her. I've come to realize that and I'm happy with that. When I would go out, obviously, it never would feel right but I would always make it a point to have a good time. I took my time and healed as much as I could. She, on the other hand, did not. She immediately entered into a fling with another guy. A "rebound" if you will. That didn't work out well for her, obviously. The breakup was especially hard for her, though she wouldn't show it to me. Also, she is very manipulative when it comes to me. She changed her phone number so that when I decided to break NC, my "little game would backfire" on me. She would put up away messages on AIM and status messages on Facebook and what-not. Most of the time, they were subliminal to me. She would also leave people comments so that I would see them and sometimes they wouldn't be so nice. One time she even went so far as to put up an away message on AIM with my initials randomly bolded out in it. Weird stuff I tell ya. Well the NC went on until approximately October. I chatted with her on AIM a couple times because she was having a hard time accepting me dating one of her old friends. Around Thanksgiving, we start back chatting on AIM. I study statement analysis as part of my major and my job. I would notice that some of the things she would say would come up deceptive or down right lies. It was obvious that she was hiding something from me. Sometimes her comments would even be down right rude and out of line. She would lash out at how we are not getting back together when I expressed my disapproval of something she was doing. She would also go on to tell me her new future plans complete with the phrase "since you screwed me over". I could tell by her remarks that she wasn't happy. I knew she was hiding something from me. Our conversations would head back into pleasant friend zone; only to head south again. Anyway, well we chatted nearly every night until right before Christmas and I knew she was lonely and missing me though I wouldn't ask and she wouldn't admit it. A week or so before Christmas, I just quit talking to her because her foul mood was killing my Christmas spirit. Long story short, I get a call the other night at 4 a.m. from a weird number, so I answered it. It was her. She made up some lame excuse to call me, then proceeded to ask how I had been. I knew she'd been drinking so I asked her was she safe and ok and she told me that she was. So I told her that I'd talk to her later and got off the phone. I was proud of myself for not talking to her and ending the conversation on my own terms and not falling into her conversation trap. I found out through some mutual friends that earlier in the night she had been at a party running her mouth about me. I sent her an IM yesterday and "kindly" asked her not to call or IM me anymore because she didn't deserve any form of communication from me anymore. So to other people, my name is mud. When she talks to me, however, I know there is something that she's hiding. What gives? I guess my question is: With all the drama she stirs up and the weird away messages and what-not; what is she trying to accomplish? I used to be able to keep up with her...now she boggles my mind.
lkjh Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 If you are done with her then just keep up with the no contact. What is the back story on why you two broke up?
dazedconfused Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 she's obviously just mad.. maybe at you maybe at herself maybe its both but it sounds like shes more frustrated then anything like a "how dare you dump me" sort of childish thing
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