lilmrcheerful Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I know that sometimes people don't mean to hurt each other or make a mistake, or even two, after all it's human nature to stumble and make mistakes and none other hurting all the more when it's done to you by the person you love and trusted the most in your life. My partner seems to be hell bent on continually hurting me by lying or being decitful, promises after promises and breaking them when faced with temptation, whether by the tempter or by their own admission. Situations that you "forgave" in the past because they appeared sincere and sorrowful, deeply sorrowful and yet a few months later the same issue happens and the same results occur. Not everybody's the same, some would have chosen to quit the relationship immediately but some may not be so hard skinned and continue to try and give them the benefit of the doubt. Now comes the question - when sincere distrust and resentment sets in, are these the types of emotions that are irreversible - even if the person actually was trying so hard to do their best and was actually getting it right? Is it actually possible to reverse these feelings or do you think that once it gets to this stage ther really is no other way back other than to move on?
hunkahunkaburninlove Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Your post is very nebulous. Can you give any details?
Charles1978 Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 From a past relationship that ended badly... I forgave only when I was able to gather whatever trust I had remaining in her to believe that she was sorry and would not do it again. It took a whole lot for me to do that. When she did it again, it was immediately over, and I never looked back. There was nothing she could have done to get me to change my mind... nothing. I'd think each person is different, but we all have our breaking points, or points of no return. My feelings for her are irreversible, no doubt.
Dexter Morgan Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I know that sometimes people don't mean to hurt each other or make a mistake Cheating isn't a mistake. They did it because they wanted to do it. Call it a poor choice and lousy character. But it isn't a mistake. People like to call it a mistake so they can say, "i'm human, I made a mistake". Ya ya, blah blah blah. All that is accomplished by calling it a mistake is to fool the betrayed into thinking they deserve a 2nd chance. Instead it would be refreshing if cheaters, and those that are desperate to forgive them, to call it what it is, the cheater is a louse and have the character of a snake. Own it, admit it, then find a way to move on. Calling it a mistake is trying to downplay what really happened.
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