SoulSearch_CO Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I don't think you're too old for her, but I do think you are the rebound guy. Look out unless you don't mind being used for the short term.
Jersey Shortie Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 No. The only time it would matter is if you THINK it does. Well I don't understand why people think age doesn't matter. Age doesn't have to be a bad thing but it does factor in like anything else in a relationship. Sometimes, age wise, people just aren't compatible and there is nothing wrong in that. The best way for you to get this girl is to relax. If she went out for coffee and drinks with you, she's obviously interested. Got to sort of disagree again. I would have agreed if it wasn't for the lastest development of her just breaking up with her ex. I would be careful that you are not her rebound. Actually, avoid the ones who are 4.5 years older. They're shallow and immature. Oh and be careful of the ones with short, light-brown hair. Pretty messed up, if I do say so myself! Oh and Jersey my dad is 42, not 60.
BikerBeagle Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 She is JUST out of a relationship (broke up last monday not yesterday), ive worked with her for a couple of years. We went for coffee mid last week, then out for drinks after work on Fri. It got a bit out of hand drinking, dancing til 2 am and necking in the bar. Til I took her home (dropped her off at her ex's place,they still live together although he told her to leave). I told her I wasn't interested in being a rebound but have liked her for awhile, and that she had to straighten out her home life. Figure out what she wants. Shes a mess. She is also a co-worker (office of 30) so...its pretty complicated fer sure. I feel guilty/hopeful and like a bit (lot) of a loser all rolled up into one. She hasn't been at work this week yet. I don't know if she is taking care of business, back together with her boyfriend, freaked out becuase of "us" or what. Im pretty confused. She's a week -sort of- out of a relationship (still living with the ex) AND she's your coworker. What do we need to do? ...take a big red flag and beat you over the head with it? This isn't going to end well for you. I promise you that. Write off Friday as a mistake, maybe even apologize for your behavior, and don't put yourself in that situation again. You need to distance yourself from this ...don't buy a ticket on that rollercoaster.
LavendarGirl Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Hi Sparkey, Naaah, I wouldn't say that age is a factor here regarding a potential relationship with this 32 year old. Of course, other factors do come into play...do you have chemistry, is she ready for a relationship at this point, are you a good match, etc.
D-Jam Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Meh...if the 32 year old likes you then go for it.
flc Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Go ahead and try I would and I am 51. I have dated women 20 years younger and 5 years older. However, you will find that it is easier to be compatible with someone closer to your age than farther away. That is my experience.
hanginthere Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I am 44 yrs old female and have dated a few 32 yrs old this in the past 6 months. They all thought I was 28-32yrs old. Not that it mattered it is all a state of mind really. I am in good shape know what I want, where I am going, not looking to cling to a guy, I have kids, been married not looking for either of those. A friend/champion to do things with and that is it. I went out with a guy who I did not know was 25 yrs old, it was fine but not my thing or mine. He thought I was 28 and I thought he was 30ish. Now I am out going out with a 48 yr old and I can tell you that we are much more suited for each other. He is successful, had kids, been married, is healthy, marathon runner and we have so much more in common and have so much fun! So it is all relative to what you are wanting and looking for. Me from 25 to 32 to 48 yrs old in 3 months. I am happy right now with 48! And still get calls from the younger guys.
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