sparkey64 Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 im 44 (45 in March) and I like this woman at work. She is 32. I have a 34 year old who is interested in me, but like the 32 year old. Is that too big a difference for a woman? Im in reasonalble shape (athletic) and have minimal grey hair. Is there a may december thread here?
Citizen Erased Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I have a rule. No-one that is older than my father. Do you think she is interested in you at all? I don't think the age difference is that huge that she'd count you out if she had feelings for you.
JerseyShortie Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I have a rule. No-one that is older than my father. Gosh, that rule would never work for me. My dad is in his 60s. My cut off is way below that. There really isn't a huge difference between 32 and 34. I am sure you like the 32 year old for other reasons then her age no? Go for the one you like. The age difference might be too big or it might not be. You won't know unless you actually see where the relationship takes you. I know alot of people, especially men, seem to think age doesn't matter. But it does. Age is another factor in a relationship just as a woman's weight can be.
Author sparkey64 Posted January 14, 2009 Author Posted January 14, 2009 She is JUST out of a relationship (broke up last monday not yesterday), ive worked with her for a couple of years. We went for coffee mid last week, then out for drinks after work on Fri. It got a bit out of hand drinking, dancing til 2 am and necking in the bar. Til I took her home (dropped her off at her ex's place,they still live together although he told her to leave). I told her I wasn't interested in being a rebound but have liked her for awhile, and that she had to straighten out her home life. Figure out what she wants. Shes a mess. She is also a co-worker (office of 30) so...its pretty complicated fer sure. I feel guilty/hopeful and like a bit (lot) of a loser all rolled up into one. She hasn't been at work this week yet. I don't know if she is taking care of business, back together with her boyfriend, freaked out becuase of "us" or what. Im pretty confused.
Trialbyfire Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 If she's interested, go for it! Last year, at 33, I was dating a man who was approx. 9+ years older. No big deal. It's about stage in life, not age. If the two of you have enough in common, goals, compatibility, why not? Now if you were asking about a 20-something or tweeny, I would wonder. On the otherhand, one of our 40-something female members, married a man in his mid-twenties, and the two are very happy so who am I to say otherwise? Per individual maturity reliant!
johan Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I wouldn't waste my time with any woman between 25 and 35. Too immature.
Milos Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Hey Sparky. 1. First off, you're a young guy. I consider anyone under 50 a young guy. Your question was- does age matter? No. The only time it would matter is if you THINK it does. That's not a big age gap at all as long as your a generally positive guy who's got his stuff together (which, from your posts you seem to be:)). You are not too old, not even close. I know guys who are 49 and dating 25 year olds. It's really not a big deal. I consider it an advantage because you're more mature and experienced. 2. The best way for you to get this girl is to relax. If she went out for coffee and drinks with you, she's obviously interested. (If she thought you were too old, she wouldn't have gone with you). She is interested in you, it just seems like she's got her own **** to figure out. THe fact that she's living with her ex bf is sketchy. She needs to figure her stuff out first. You have to descide if you're still interested in her. If you are, act on it! Thinking about it won't get you anywhere. I hope that helped a bit...
Milos Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I wouldn't waste my time with any woman between 25 and 35. Too immature. Maturity and age are seperate. I know some 18 year olds who are 10 times more mature than some 30 year olds. Go by maturity mate, not by a number.
johan Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Maturity and age are seperate. I know some 18 year olds who are 10 times more mature than some 30 year olds. Go by maturity mate, not by a number. I agree that you think that. Age is everything as far as I'm concerned. I also avoid brunettes.
Citizen Erased Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I wouldn't waste my time with any woman between 25 and 35. Too immature.
Dumbledore Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I have a rule. No-one that is older That's pretty restrictive, but I respect your right to decide for yourself by yourself individually. Age isn't everything, it's the only thing. You might feel younger, or look younger, but your internal organs tell the real story.
Citizen Erased Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 That's pretty restrictive, but I respect your right to decide for yourself by yourself individually. Age isn't everything, it's the only thing. You might feel younger, or look younger, but your internal organs tell the real story. Oh and Jersey my dad is 42, not 60. Not that I'd go after someone specifically that is like 41 but I think I wouldn't be able to get past the age thing if they were older than my father, no matter how much I liked him.
Trialbyfire Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Maturity and age are seperate. I know some 18 year olds who are 10 times more mature than some 30 year olds. Go by maturity mate, not by a number. Actually, avoid the ones who are 4.5 years older. They're shallow and immature. Oh and be careful of the ones with short, light-brown hair. Pretty messed up, if I do say so myself!
Author sparkey64 Posted January 14, 2009 Author Posted January 14, 2009 She is quite mature for her age, id say. She has an 8 year old. Her "stbx" and her been together for about 3 years, lived together for two. Just told her and her kid to take a hike. suddenly. She is staying in the house, for now and has got some legal advise. At least as of Friday he was telling her to leave. She said she had no idea. they were getting along quite well, but he suffers from depression... me and others suspect someone else is in the picture. She says she still cares for him, and this hit her like a train. I frankly feel quite guilty about what happened Friday night, although besides some dancing, kissing and me telling her how I felt about her for the past 6 months... nothing happened. So if she comes back to work tomorrow, I either say something like man I was drunk and said a bunch of silly stuff friday night... or what?
Author sparkey64 Posted January 14, 2009 Author Posted January 14, 2009 I only said I have the 34 who is interested in me to make the point that I am still half ways attractive for an old geezer.
johan Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Actually, avoid the ones who are 4.5 years older. They're shallow and immature. Oh and be careful of the ones with short, light-brown hair. Pretty messed up, if I do say so myself! That's ridiculous. Did you just pull an age and an hair color out of your ass? Fine. I hate 80-year-old red heads, too. Too bossy.
Trialbyfire Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 That's ridiculous. Did you just pull an age and an hair color out of your ass? Fine. I hate 80-year-old red heads, too. Too bossy. The information came from the same place your information came from. Experience.
Dumbledore Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 , I was dating a man who was approx. 9+ Actually, avoid the ones who are 4. Honestly, I think anything goes, but avoid the terrible twos. Too much drama.
Star Gazer Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Actually, avoid the ones who are 4.5 years older. They're shallow and immature. Oh and be careful of the ones with short, light-brown hair. Pretty messed up, if I do say so myself! :lmao:
Citizen Erased Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 The information came from the same place your information came from. Experience. So we should always avoid those with short, light brown hair? Damn guess I'm breaking up with the boyfriend tonight...*sighs*
Citizen Erased Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Honestly, I think anything goes, but avoid the terrible twos. Too much drama. Too far D.
Dumbledore Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 That's ridiculous. Did you just pull an age and an hair color out of your ass? Some people dwell on stereotypes, for some reason. Those people are always pulling stuff out of their arse, and pretending that it is original and creative thought. In reality, they have NPD, and it's vacuous crap. Try not to let it get to you. Age is just a number. However, it's the most important number there is. And one that is the single most important factor in determining whether two people are compatible.
Trialbyfire Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 :lmao: Oh my! You too? So we should always avoid those with short, light brown hair? Damn guess I'm breaking up with the boyfriend tonight...*sighs* Is he 4.5 years older than you? If not, you're perfectly safe!
fromfaraway Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 im 44 (45 in March) and I like this woman at work. She is 32. I have a 34 year old who is interested in me, but like the 32 year old. Is that too big a difference for a woman? Im in reasonalble shape (athletic) and have minimal grey hair. Is there a may december thread here? Sparkey, I think you are NOT too old for either. Someone who is over 30 is usually quite mature so the difference then matters less between a 44 and a 32 than between a 28 and a 17 years old. At the house of worship I attend, there is an 84 years old lady who told me she is interested in me, and she know always sits next to me, telling me how much she likes me. How old am I? 29
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