Cherbear Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I just got this email from him. Hey, Cherbear. I think it will be better if you don't write or call me again. It will be better that way. I will give you my textbook, but you should really find another person to help you with orgo. Bye. This is from Bob. We are in the same program in grad school and we got close recently. He's really smart, hard-working and he's been tutoring me. We started spending a lot of time together and talked online everyday until one day he all of a sudden just stopped talking to me but came around after 2 days. After being asked several times, he finally told me that he started to really like me but he's transferring next year and seeing that nothing can happen anyway he thought it'd be best if he kept his distance. Then I asked how come he came around after 2 days, he said it didn't work very well for him b/c he did like me a lot. After he told me this, he disappeared for 2 weeks. We were supposed to do stuff together during this time but of course he blew me off. I couldn't reach him and I got no response from him to my texting. I bought him a scarf before X'mas as a thank you gift for all the tutoring but never got a chance to give it to him b/c he pulled the disappearing act on me. Last Sunday I finally mustered the courage and went over to his place and gave him the scarf. I didn't mention his disappearing act and everything seems back to normal. We hung out all day Monday and I sent him an email afterwards reminding him to pack the scarf for his trip to Russia today.(He's leaving for Russia to visit family for 2 weeks) I asked him if he could write me while he's in Russia b/c I miss him a little bit already. I regreted for a bit about the miss him part b/c I don't know how he'd respond to that but I really do miss him already. He wrote back that he doesn't know how often he can get online in Russia but he'll see me when he got back. 2 hrs later, he sent me another email, which is above, telling me he doesn't want me in his life any more. I just feel so upset right now. After that dreadful 2 weeks I thought we were back to normal. And now he actually made it clear that he doesn't want to be with me any more. I am crying right now and I don't know what to do. Help me!
Author Cherbear Posted January 14, 2009 Author Posted January 14, 2009 After he told me he liked me I told him I like him too. But since he already said nothing can happen anyway I said maybe we could be really friends for now b/c we do like each other a lot. I don't know if that's the reason he disappeared for 2 weeks but I'm just too upset to think straight right now.
OpenBook Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I would just politely reply to his email, "OK have a nice life, and good luck with the schizophrenia."
Trialbyfire Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 He sounds torn. Are you certain he's single, in that he doesn't have a prior commitment in Russia?
prettybaby Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Seriously, wtf is wrong with him? Do you know how many people manage to keep a relationship alive, no matter the context and distance? That's some serious BS right there. It's really gotta suck, and I feel so sorry for you, but he sounds like a major waste of time anyway.
fishtaco Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Ummm... from the post it sounds like only platonic things have happened up to this point. Why is this BS? And why is he schizo? It's not like they've been dating or something. So if I hang out with a woman a lot, platonically, and we both happen to consider each other physically attractive, then she's obligated to have sex with me? If she doesn't, then she's schizo and this is BS? This just sounds to me like he's a decent guy that's thinking with his head instead of his penis. To the OP, move on. Why did you invest so much emotionally when you haven't even done anything romantic with him? This is just a simple case of having an interest in someone, and it just so happened to not work out. He didn't trick you into anything. He didn't use you for sex.
serial muse Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Cherbear, weren't you still with your BF just a month or so ago? I'm assuming you guys broke up after all but it seems like you were pretty upset about it... ...so maybe it's waaaay too soon to even think about another relationship with someone new?
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