Cherbear Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 I just got this email from him. Hey, Cherbear. I think it will be better if you don't write or call me again. It will be better that way. I will give you my textbook, but you should really find another person to help you with orgo. Bye. This is from Bob. We are in the same program in grad school and we got close recently. He's really smart, hard-working and he's been tutoring me. We started spending a lot of time together and talked online everyday until one day he all of a sudden just stopped talking to me but came around after 2 days. After being asked several times, he finally told me that he started to really like me but he's transferring next year and seeing that nothing can happen anyway he thought it'd be best if he kept his distance. Then I asked how come he came around after 2 days, he said it didn't work very well for him b/c he did like me a lot. After he told me this, he disappeared for 2 weeks. We were supposed to do stuff together during this time but of course he blew me off. I couldn't reach him and I got no response from him to my texting. I bought him a scarf before X'mas as a thank you gift for all the tutoring but never got a chance to give it to him b/c he pulled the disappearing act on me. Last Sunday I finally mustered the courage and went over to his place and gave him the scarf. I didn't mention his disappearing act and everything seems back to normal. We hung out all day Monday and I sent him an email afterwards reminding him to pack the scarf for his trip to Russia today.(He's leaving for Russia to visit family for 2 weeks) I asked him if he could write me while he's in Russia b/c I miss him a little bit already. I regreted for a bit about the miss him part b/c I don't know how he'd respond to that but I really do miss him already. He wrote back that he doesn't know how often he can get online in Russia but he'll see me when he got back. 2 hrs later, he sent me another email, which is above, telling me he doesn't want me in his life any more. I just feel so upset right now. After that dreadful 2 weeks I thought we were back to normal. And now he actually made it clear that he doesn't want to be with me any more. I am crying right now and I don't know what to do. Help me!
Author Cherbear Posted January 13, 2009 Author Posted January 13, 2009 After he told me he liked me I told him I like him too. But since he already said nothing can happen anyway I said maybe we could be really friends for now b/c we do like each other a lot. I don't know if that's the reason he disappeared for 2 weeks but I'm just too upset to think straight right now.
You'reasian Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 I just got this email from him. Hey, Cherbear. I think it will be better if you don't write or call me again. It will be better that way. I will give you my textbook, but you should really find another person to help you with orgo. Bye. This is from Bob. We are in the same program in grad school and we got close recently. He's really smart, hard-working and he's been tutoring me. We started spending a lot of time together and talked online everyday until one day he all of a sudden just stopped talking to me but came around after 2 days. After being asked several times, he finally told me that he started to really like me but he's transferring next year and seeing that nothing can happen anyway he thought it'd be best if he kept his distance. Then I asked how come he came around after 2 days, he said it didn't work very well for him b/c he did like me a lot. After he told me this, he disappeared for 2 weeks. We were supposed to do stuff together during this time but of course he blew me off. I couldn't reach him and I got no response from him to my texting. I bought him a scarf before X'mas as a thank you gift for all the tutoring but never got a chance to give it to him b/c he pulled the disappearing act on me. Last Sunday I finally mustered the courage and went over to his place and gave him the scarf. I didn't mention his disappearing act and everything seems back to normal. We hung out all day Monday and I sent him an email afterwards reminding him to pack the scarf for his trip to Russia today.(He's leaving for Russia to visit family for 2 weeks) I asked him if he could write me while he's in Russia b/c I miss him a little bit already. I regreted for a bit about the miss him part b/c I don't know how he'd respond to that but I really do miss him already. He wrote back that he doesn't know how often he can get online in Russia but he'll see me when he got back. 2 hrs later, he sent me another email, which is above, telling me he doesn't want me in his life any more. I just feel so upset right now. After that dreadful 2 weeks I thought we were back to normal. And now he actually made it clear that he doesn't want to be with me any more. I am crying right now and I don't know what to do. Help me! Sink or swim? SWIM! Find a gym or some place that has an indoor pool and go for a few laps. Swimming is a great low-resistance toning workout and not too bad for the cardio. You'll feel so much better when its done or any excercise for that matter. Pick yourself up. You can do it!
Author Cherbear Posted January 14, 2009 Author Posted January 14, 2009 I really do like him. I don't know if we'll have a relationship b/c we both have had unsuccessful long-distance relationships before. I am willing to try though but he clearly isn't on the same wavelength as me. I want at least some sort of a relationship with him, if not a relationship, maybe a friendship. He's one the greatest guys I have met in a long time and I don't want to lose him.
AlektraClementine Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 You can have friendships with plenty of other great people. His email clearly states that he wishes for you to stop contacting him. It would be disrespectful to push the issue. He may come back around on his own terms but when someone says in no uncertain terms that they want you to not contact them, it's a matter of common courtesy to respect their wishes. So sorry for you. I know it doesn't feel very good to be pushed away like this.
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