blackrider27 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Some of you know how my ex said she loved me twice in the past 2 weeks. And i thought nothing of it, i was annoyed with why she said it since she dumped me. So i talked to some friends and they said she probebly wants to get back together. At first i didn't know what to think of her because how much she's changed. But it was killing me so i texted her saying that i wish she would tell me why she said what she said. and she said "I said it because i had the feeling that you were trying to get rid of me for good and i wanted you to know i still did" And i told her how we talked on the phone a couple weeks ago just as we used to when we dated and said it, but then the next day she said we shouldn't say it anymore. So then she said that she doesn't know what i want from her and that she was just thinking of me thats it. my heart, and every other organ fell 20 feet when she said that. i followed my heart because i thought she might have wanted to reconcile but she didn't. She just wanted me around as a friend. That's great. I'm crushed and i think i'm going to cry again for the first time since the break up. But she is only making it easier, because i'm comparing all of the ****ty things she's done to me emotionally. I really need some help right now
Geishawhelk Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Has anyone advised you yet that the best thing to do, the fastest way to heal, is to go No Contact?
Author blackrider27 Posted January 13, 2009 Author Posted January 13, 2009 of course! of course. But that's not always the answer. She initiated contact and told me she loved me. So i thought maybe no contact wasn't the way to go this time. Clearly i was wrong.
Geishawhelk Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Clearly. But don't worry. You're in the company of at least two-thirds of dear Loveshackers who thought it wouldn't do any harm to stay in touch. And who discovered, on breaking their hearts time and again, how wrong they were. OK. You can always start again. And this time, see, and witness, and remember how much it hurts, and how dumb you feel, and hold onto that and now - Go - and stay - NO CONTACT!! You do know what that entails, huh? A - Z.
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