aiina Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Hello everyone I came to the point where I no longer count the days I've been NC, thinking of that I would say it's more than 2 months and I have been doing quite well. It feels good. At the beginning he sent me a few messages (saying really nothing) that I haven't respond, I thought he would get bored and forget about my existence fast. I thought it worked, but recently he made some silly thing over facebook, I don't know if to get me to notice him, or just because he was peeping over my profile and clicked over the wrong key. (I must say I deleted him off from my friends list when I started NC, that was from the first day). It felt weird, of course I didn't say a word to him. But the point is, I want to live my live and have fun peacefully, I don't want him to know anything about me and I am not considering deleting me off from anywhere because of him. On the other hand, I don't want him to have any easy way to contact me if one day he gets drunk or bored. So the question is, if I keep ignoring him, and cutting all possibilities to contact me, will he get bored of that and never contact me again? Will he get the message or will he think I am still interested on him? A friend told me to tell him to stop fooling around me, but I don't want to start any contact with him, so I think it's better to keep NC and ignore everything? I just don't like the feel of his eyes over my shoulder, you know. aii
audrey_1 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Did he break up with you? I suppose it's probably just best to maintain N/C and not worry so much with what he thinks. It sounds like you're intent on moving on and leaving it behind, so do just that. I understand your saying you don't want him to know anything about you, or be able to peer into your life, which is what Facebook friendship allows. I feel the same way with my ex. I am N/C, and I don't want him to be able to "keep up" with me via some online networking site. He doesn't have any rights to my personal life. All his other exes are there, and they send each other cute and witty posts. I suppose it works for them to keep shreds of each other around for ego gratification, but not me. You said you deleted him, though, so how is it you're seeing these comments? Is it through another friend? If you block him, you won't be able to see him anywhere. For me, this works best.
Author aiina Posted January 13, 2009 Author Posted January 13, 2009 Hello Audrey yes, he did the break up. & he also has his exes over FB I know he's been watching my stuff over some FB application, I tried to delete it, but it won't dissapear, yet I deleted it anyway. will block work? I mean, even if he keeps some PM sent over the site? thanks for your help
audrey_1 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 After you block someone, you can still see posts and emails that were already sent, but the picture disappears. It becomes that generic shadow figure with the cowlick. But there can be no communication after that. The friendship link is broken, you can't be found by them in a search. Your profile disappears from them.
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