Hurting. Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 So i made a thread yesterday explaining i have split up from my girlfriend back in october, but only last week did i tell her i want NC with her from now on. And I'm kinda' liking a new girl but not over her.. complicated. We do part time work together tho' so avoiding is impossible, and today for first time since the 10 days NC we have had to kinda' work around same area as each other. But today, i noticed she was acting really jolly around people when i was there, putting her arm round couple boys near me, and just being smiley with everyone and loud and excited, she used to never really be like this. Is this a girls way of saying.. "**** you this is what your missing out on" or is she just simply trying to act like im not there and get on with things and have a good time? It was my first 'proper' relationship with her, so any experiences or opinions would be ace thanks.
Jada Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Looks like she's trying to show you she's moved on, but for her to have a personality change so quickly seems to me it must be for your benefit. I have no idea what NC is could you please tell me?
Author Hurting. Posted January 13, 2009 Author Posted January 13, 2009 NC no communication like. It seems really bitchy what shes doing and it does actually get to me.
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 no offence..........i don't know your story...............but why wouldn't she want you to see her having a good time? do you expect her to look depressed or overcome with emotion everytime you see her? it seems she's doing her best to get on with things.....................yeah maybe she wants to make you jealous or miss her. maybe she wants to get to you. i don't want my ex to think i've been wallowing over him, or crying, even though that is what i've been doing. but he won't know it. i'll smile everytime i see him. because it's who i am, and it's making a point.
Mikey Action Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 When you see her don't be sad or try to make her jealous. Just look right through her. Women hate that. It's a not-so-subtle way of saying "You. are. not. worth. my. energy.any.more."
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 ok i have to disagree with mikey. because i've had that done to me before. and it's not a nice place to be. the fact is you both meant something to each other at some point. there is no harm in you just saying hello the next time you see her. don't ignore her. at least be decent to her! i can't understand that mentality of ignoring someone who might have hurt you, but meant something to you before, someone you gave a lot of time and energy to. and hopefully they gave the same back. a simple hello doesn't have to mean anything. it's the polite thing to do.
Mikey Action Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 ok i have to disagree with mikey. because i've had that done to me before. and it's not a nice place to be. the fact is you both meant something to each other at some point. there is no harm in you just saying hello the next time you see her. don't ignore her. at least be decent to her! i can't understand that mentality of ignoring someone who might have hurt you, but meant something to you before, someone you gave a lot of time and energy to. and hopefully they gave the same back. a simple hello doesn't have to mean anything. it's the polite thing to do. Sure. I can see that, perhaps I misread this, I thought that she had broken up with him. My bad. Well, yeah, I guess say hello. If you are the dumper, I feel the key is walking a fine line between being kind and not leading someone on. Sometimes that means not taking their calls or talking to them. I've been the dumpee before and in hindsight I have a lot of respect for one gf who broke it off and was firm, didn't contact me and didn't let me contact her. After a month I was over it and had she spoken to me I would have been on the mend for much longer.
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