griffinchicken53 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 just curious, how do you show someone you are interested in them, or ways to tell if a person is interested in you? i'm a guy and as far as I can tell noone has ever been interested in me. At least not to my knowledge. Maybe I overlooked signs in the past because i didn't know what to look for. i went to school with this girl several years back, but never really talked to her...about three months ago she emailed me, and we email back and forth a good bit, sometimes every day. I found out the time she started emailing me was around the time her boyfriend moved to another state. She told me she's unsure what to do, either break it off, or move and get married. he won't move back so the decision is completely up to her. i'm 99.999% sure this doesn't mean anything. any other guy it might. She's hot and has lots of hot guy friends so not sure why she talks to me though. we do have stuff in common. I thought she was a bitch in school but now i see she is extremely nice. Right now she emails me more than anyone else I'm friends with. Even though i have wishful thinking I know this doesn't mean anything. But if for some odd chance i found out later on she had thought something, i would beat the crap out of myself. I'm not going to do anything, had to get it out of my head, but please feel free to chime in on original question of this thread or just yell and scream at me on how stupid i am for even entertaining the thought. thanks.
sultry33 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 why not just ask her on a date or casual drink? worst she can say is no right?
zenith Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 it's easier to tell when it is face to face kind of hard to tell whether he/she likes you through e-mails...
Milos Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 Hey griffinchicken53. Ya she's probably into you. If she wasn't interested she wouldn't be spending time sending you emails. On the other hand, make sure you're not an emotional punching bag for her problems. Go to www.howtogetdates.wordpress.com and read the 5 tips to avoid getting friendzoned and see if you fall into any of those. Anyway you've got to lower your standards of what you consider 'girls being interested'. Most girls are not going to rip your pants off and jump your bones ( some will). You're the man, the responsibility is on you for making it happen. The way I see it, if a girl is talking and not walking away (especially at a bar and club) she's interested. Period. That way, you get in the habit of going for it, everytime. If you get a non-positive response, that's totally cool, don't be mean about it, simply move on. You'll get the next one. Think about how many HUNDREDS of opportunities you missed just by not going for it. Don't wait for the chick to be into you, and THEN show her your interest. That's weak. You want to be a little more bold and confident. Hope that helps a bit. Goodluck!
prettybaby Posted January 14, 2009 Posted January 14, 2009 I wouldn't worry too much about trying to pick up clues. If you're interested in someone, simply ask them out for some casual drink or lunch and get to know them better. Then take it from there. If you wait around until you meet a girl who's a total open book about her feelings, then uhh, good luck
Author griffinchicken53 Posted January 23, 2009 Author Posted January 23, 2009 alot of good info sorry i'm just now getting back to read it. i don't have the standards of wanting my pants ripped off, probably the opposite cuz i'm scared of not being any good in bed. i'm not much of the going to clubs/bars and talking to women. i'd rather be friendzoned than nothing at all.
runner Posted January 23, 2009 Posted January 23, 2009 a girl who's a total open book about her feelings and she'll come riding on her unicorn, too :lmao:
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