ThoughtsRequired Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Hello all, seeking your advice on what to do. I'm concerned that a person close to me, who I will call MrABC is being scammed in an online hoax thing, and I'm uncertain what to do. Story is that he's met someone via one of those online gamer sites. Has known her for over 3 years, and is now heavily in love with her (his first relationship). They have interacted via the gamer website, email and voice yet over the course of 3 years he has only been emailed 1 photo of her. BTW, MrABC is very trusting of people and also has low self-esteem. Tends to be a bit of a loner, quiet, reserved, shy. My brother and I found out that he has been given her very very large sums of money. He even gave her his credit card which she is using to spend like crazy. (They are in two different countries). He gets calls from the bank concerned about the use of his card but he disregards it, as well as any concern my brother and I state. We did some research and got her email address (she's very young). It turned out "her" email address could well belong to her ex-boyfriend, and judging by her social web-page profile, and the ex-boyfriend's social web-page, we're not sure if MrABC is being hoaxed by the ex-boyfriend and going wild with the credit card... or whether they're both in on it. The thing is... what do I do?... How do I get through to him that it looks like he's being hoaxed?... Mr ABC is the type who god-forbid might harm himself if his world came crashing down around him... What's the best way to go about it, and how can this be investigated further? Can it be reported to a web authority? I don't know. Thanks in advance for your thoughts. I didn't know where else to turn or what to do.
marlena Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 This is a tough situation as we all know that when people are in love, even if it is with a phantom lover, they never listen. Perhaps you could provide some proof, undeniable evidence that he is being scammed by this woman (and her pimp, most likely).
Tomcat33 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 This breaks my heart, it seriously does. There are so many men with low self esteem victim to this type of online abuse and all because they want to be loved. Look if I were you I would go to my local authorities talk to a cop they will guide you on what to do, how to go about tracking the scammers down I am sure there is a division that deals with all sorts of online fraud. Unfortunately you can get assessed all you want but unless your friend is willing to take action himself there is probably not much you can do yourself. Gather all the information possible and when you see the cops tell them exactly what site they met on etc. they have online detectives that can track this kind of thing, who knows they might even have other leads from other scams that were performed and reported already. Maybe if you can show some proof of ther situations he will be more open to have this looked into. I hope the scammers rot in hell that is the lowest thing you can do to another human being.
marlena Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 This breaks my heart, it seriously does. There are so many men with low self esteem victim to this type of online abuse and all because they want to be loved. I know, TC, it breaks my heart, too. I know of so many stories. I hope the scammers rot in hell that is the lowest thing you can do to another human being. If there is a hell, they sure do belong there. Cashing in on a person's needs for love, attention and validation is as low as you can get.
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