wierdmunky Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Once I was talking to a co-worker at a restaurant, and we were talking about sometimes I think I can't get "close" to my guy, and she said, well guys are do-ers. They like to "do" to show affection sometimes, and most really aren't "talkers" like women are. So what if I don't really need that? What if I'm used to doing everything myself, I don't want him to feel like he can't do anything for me?? I'm not sure I get it.
CrashLanded87 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 What they mean is that Guys really won't tell you what they mean, they will show it... Girls will talk about everything and express through words how they feel... Guys will "do" stuff to show you how they feel...
ruggy Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 I'm the opposite. I will talk and wait for a signal or opening. Then again, if I miss catching the opening or signal, I guess I would just be a talker then. Can't do something if the women doesn't send CLEAR hits.
norajane Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Try reading the "Five Love Languages". It explains how different people show their love in different ways. Some are verbal and do it with words, others through acts of service (doers, like a guy who will wash your car and replace your battery instead of telling you he cares). Others show love through gifts, others through touching, etc. If you can understand your partner's love language, it helps to feel more loved when you see them showing it in their way. Sure, it would be ideal to be with someone who shares your love languages, but it doesn't always happen. If you're with someone and it's just not working for you, you can always discuss it with them and try to meet in the middle.
Trialbyfire Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 wierdmunky, why not list what your b/f does for you? If you can't think of anything, do you stop him from trying or does he not do or even say anything, to make you feel loved?
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