mocha1016 Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 my ex called last night and said that he missed me and wanted to see me..i said it wouldnt be a good idea and left it at that.a few minutes later he called again and said he wanted us to hang out at his place and order in..i said fine, i'll go. so i did. we talked about everything else but the past, we talk about future goals (and yes, it involved us together), family and other things. we had a good time together. then it was time for me to leave and he said for me to stay a little longer. i said fine, im good, i can handle this, i thought. im still heartbroken but i can say no to whatever comes my way..minutes later he said he missed me soo much that everyday he thought about me..BUT he didnt say let's try it again..AND he did say im ready to settle down but im scared of messing it up with you...is he proposing something here? was i suppose to respond somehow? i said okay. it was nice hanging out with you but i gotta go and left. this morning he text me saying he was missing me..
dazedconfused Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 he most definately wants you back, but he's unsure on how you feel towards him. Based off of what u said Id say he's very confused not knowing what u want out of him, he knows what he wants you. What I would do if I were you would be to let him know how u feel about him thats whats bothering him the most. If you told him you felt the same way he would definately ask to have you back, I believe he is hesitant becuz he doesnt want to be rejected.
Riffmeister General Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Agree with the above. He might be a bit confused himself. The danger here is SOMETIMES (not all times, but SOMEtimes) the dumper finds that life single isn't as easy as they thought, they can't pick up the waitress in the bar they thought they had a shot with etc etc, and they default back to what was safe. Any going back to someone needs A LOT of discussion between the two of you. You need to lay boundaries right away. Some things to think about... - Can you trust him again after he broke up with you? - Did he cheat? If so, why, and how likely is he to do it again? - How would you feel a month down the line if he broke up with you again? - Have you, during being single, managed to realise his faults and things you don't miss about him? If so, can you accept those things? Has he done the same? Having said all that, I'm a pretty firm believer in grabbing the bull by the horns and having the courage to so something you want to do but are scared by. Better to regret something you did than something you never did.
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