Hurting. Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 So, my first seriously relationship, I'm 19, as was my girlfriend, we had a happy year together, and basically we split up back in october. It gets complicated for me, i still think about her loads, miss talking to her, miss being with her, and have good memories which keep hurting me, she said she's over me a week ago tho' as i told her we should go with NC for a while as we have been being really friendly and i didn't think she would go out with me again and it was giving me false hope to an extent. Anyway, it feels like we've broken up again as I'm no longer friends with her, however, this girl at my college who i like to be around, and actually go to college looking forward to see her, we have a little laugh in the day but nothing more, and she doesn't have feelings for me Im pretty sure, but i am really starting to like her, as i say, look forward to actually seeing her, yet I'm still not over the girl i broke up with in october when i think about her? Is it normal to try and like someone else after breaking from a relationship? Or am i genuinely getting over my ex ? :S Help appreciated.
Knight_Ctrl Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Sorta in the same boat as you brother. Though my ex and I have been NC for a few weeks now and we didn't leave on exactly friendly terms either. I've found that I've been having feelings for this girl I work with. We've gone out a few times and hung out at my place once, but haven't really talked about us. We sort of agreed to just be friends right now, which is good with me because I don't want her to be a rebound girl. Thats what you need to look for. Any new girl that isn't your ex is probably going to make you feel better as they represent hope. I would recommend becoming good friends with this girl. You're allowed to have interest in someone and no one says you can't hang out just take it slow and be mindful of your feelings.
Riffmeister General Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I think your recovery has been stunted by keeping in touch with your ex, and that's why you've still got feelings for her. However, the very fact that you like this new girl and look forward to seeing her etc. should be a pretty clear sign to you that you are ready to move on, and probably would have been ages ago if you'd cut your ex off. Painful to begin with, as you now know, but it's best done early. Just continue to enjoy this girl's company for a while and see if things develop. Be patient and don't push things. Be her mate first. Good luck!
Author Hurting. Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 My friend said exactly same thing to me, i told him i was still hanging with her and stuff in december (and we broke in early october) and he just called me stupid,and said i needed to txt her ASAP and tell her that we should avoid eachother from now on) I thought about it, and realized it was only gunna' end in her finding someone knew and me getting hurt, was soo hard to tell her to ignore me, (cause we can't help seeing each other due to work) and not talk to me anymore. But realized i really have to get over her, and i hope this does mean i am getting over her, but that's what i'll do.. just see how it all goes
EmperorR Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Go for the new girl, im in the same spot, actually going to spend the weekend with her (new girl). Maybe I'm not over my ex but shrugs life is short why would I mess up the shot of something new.
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