Goatsbreath Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 ok, its day 6 and sense this whole breakup I have been the one to always initiate contact. She seems to answer or call right back when I do but from this day forward I will not contact her. She hurt me bad and turned the image I had of us into something no man should desire.
Ezekiel1337 Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 ok, its day 6 and sense this whole breakup I have been the one to always initiate contact. She seems to answer or call right back when I do but from this day forward I will not contact her. She hurt me bad and turned the image I had of us into something no man should desire. Right on my man, right on. That is EXACTLY what i think of my ex. There is no man i can think of that would beg for the woman i was begging for.(in my mind, never actually stooped that low... well mabey once 4 weeks ago, but i got over it real quick...) THere is nothing desirable about the way she treats/treated me. As a matter of fact, most people would probably have been glad she left them. But the thing is, we are so blinded by our love... that we only see what we want to see. The sooner one realizes that what we feel for our ex is only the separation anxiety, and that there is actually only residual commitment remaining... the faster we can accept that it is over and that is NOT what we want. Learn from that last experience... learn what love ISN'T and learn what you DO NOT WANT from a relationship. I am already in another relationship now, and this girl absolutley adores me... she kind of sped the realization process along, the "why would i want a girl that did this, this, this, and this to me....". I realize not everyone has that luxury. But, it is the idea that i'm trying to get at here. Good luck mah man, it is not easy. I wont lie to you, despite knowing all the horrible things my ex did to me, breaking NC was something that kept happening. Think of it this way, it may not happen, but listen. When i stopped contacting my ex... SHE would break NC. And from the sound of things, it sounds like things might go that way on your side of the fence. But that is not what you want... you do not want to have them in the same mind game they have you. Keep NC going, just enjoy the fact that the person is curious. When a good time has gone by... things will have changed dramatically. Either within you, or around you. But most likley within you. You'll have new found strength to press on and leave behind "that which once was that can never be again."
Frankasy Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 ok, its day 6 and sense this whole breakup I have been the one to always initiate contact. She seems to answer or call right back when I do but from this day forward I will not contact her. She hurt me bad and turned the image I had of us into something no man should desire. I'm in the same situation as you. I'm on day 9 of NC and have experienced the same thing as you. In fact I like your last sentence and it suits me too. I loved this girl so much but what happened between us when we spent the New Year's together was something I could never even imagine and we had turned into I dunno, the lowest definition of the word couple. I'm planning this, no contact until March and than I'm gonna call her and tell her all my anger, all the stuff she made me go through just for her so that at least I'll come clean from everyone that I wasn't the bad guy.
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