lovingalways Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 So, let's say a man is in a relationship and he tells another girl (which he MIGHT like - so we don't know if this is the case) something like "Too bad I'm not single now...", what does that mean? I know, I know - it's pretty self-explanatory - but my friend is ridiculously confused and she's not listening to what I'm telling her, so I'm hoping you all would be able to clarify this for her.
Geishawhelk Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 It means he's got a glimmer of a conscience because if he was unattached, he'd shag her @$$ off. Self control..... I like it!!
Author lovingalways Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 LOL!!! I told her that too at first. NOW she tells me he said "Too bad I'm not single because I would ask you out." LOL... My friend is indeed a nut case. The thing about this guy is that he's not like others. He's very conservative and a big gentleman (not someone you would find). He's a very unique individual so when she told me he said this, I couldn't help but be in shock. He's has been in a relationship for a couple of months now but it's his first gf. I told my friend that maybe their relationship is NOT working out....
Kamille Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I think it means: 1) I am attached 2) You are great. 3) but I am attached. It might even mean 4) I realize you have feelings for me 5) but I am attached. There's the remote possibility that he's testing her to see if she'll cross the boundary into being an OW, but usually the line goes something like: I'm maried but we're having problems. I'm assuming your friend wasn't the girl involved with this man but was rather the girl who was told that line. No matter how she turns it though, the only thing she can do is stay away and stop crushing on him.
Author lovingalways Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 I think it means: 1) I am attached 2) You are great. 3) but I am attached. It might even mean 4) I realize you have feelings for me 5) but I am attached. There's the remote possibility that he's testing her to see if she'll cross the boundary into being an OW, but usually the line goes something like: I'm maried but we're having problems. I'm assuming your friend wasn't the girl involved with this man but was rather the girl who was told that line. No matter how she turns it though, the only thing she can do is stay away and stop crushing on him. The thing about this is that she wasn't even crushing on him. Like, they were buddies for a really long time. Really good friends. Yes, it crossed her mind to date him like 2 yrs ago but not now. So, when they were talking she was mostly complaining about her failed relationship (the one that just failed) and he said that OUT OF THE BLUE. So, she didn't jump him or anything. He just said it. Now she tells me that he ALSO said that he wanted to ask her out for the past 3 yrs. Obviously, she didn't even know how to reply to this except "You have a girlfriend and I'm happy for you :)". But now she's confused and she wants to know what this all means. She says that if it's creating a problem, then she needs to have a talk with him and set him straight. She's just overall confused.
Geishawhelk Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 No. She's flustered. not confused. All she has to do, is say - "I don't ascribe to infidelity. if ever your R goes belly-up - call me. But I'm good with friendship. Period." What is so confusing about that?
Author lovingalways Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 No. She's flustered. not confused. All she has to do, is say - "I don't ascribe to infidelity. if ever your R goes belly-up - call me. But I'm good with friendship. Period." What is so confusing about that? She told me to write this so: "Thank you. He's a really good friend and I didn't expect him to come out babbling nonsense like this. I told him that (not really like that but I did remind him that he has a gf). I didn't think that him saying this was a problem until like a couple of days ago when I actually started thinking about what he said. I hang out with him a lot - like we see each other a lot on a daily basis, so I haven't seen ANY warning signs. Yes, he never talks about his gf - well he does but it's always something bad so that raised a red flag in my head but I thought he was just having a bad day when he told me all of this. Now, that he said all of this and I realized what he said, I think a talk is in order. I am flustered. Yes. Because, and I'm going to be honest here, we have an incredible chemistry and we just seem to click (he knows it, I know it and it's our fault because we didn't start dating 4 yrs ago when we met - but I was taken then). I erased him from my thoughts when he told me he had a gf. It's a "no,no". So, I'm going to talk with him and tell him I am not interested, which he should have gathered from my previous response. It just caught me off guard. I thought he was joking, to be honest."
Author lovingalways Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 Oh yes, she is also scared he will break up with his now gf to ask her out.
Frankasy Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 It means that in the guy's imagination he fantasies of being with the other girl. It's also a type of call to let the girl know that he really wants to be with her.
Author lovingalways Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 Thanks for that Frankasy. We really appreciate the male view on this.
LostLamb Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 I think it means when the opportunity arises ,he will sleep with the girl.
Frankasy Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Thanks for that Frankasy. We really appreciate the male view on this. How dare you say that? I'd do anything for a fellow Toronto-er.
Author lovingalways Posted January 13, 2009 Author Posted January 13, 2009 I think it means when the opportunity arises ,he will sleep with the girl. I highly doubt that is the case because he hasn't slept with anyone before and is not the kind of person to sleep around.
Author lovingalways Posted January 13, 2009 Author Posted January 13, 2009 How dare you say that? I'd do anything for a fellow Toronto-er. Hmmmm... Anything? You were right though. She met up with him yesterday and they talked. Things are far more complicated now because as she said they wanted to go out previously. She knew he was the one for her but she didn't think it was the right time for them to date. She still thinks it's not the right time because he has a gf. However, he told her that it's over with the gf and that he doesn't want to waste any more time in a relationship where he's fantasizing about being with her. So, now I have no idea what is going to happen. I guess we will have to see. He asked her out apparently. We'll see.
Frankasy Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 Hmmmm... Anything? You were right though. She met up with him yesterday and they talked. Things are far more complicated now because as she said they wanted to go out previously. She knew he was the one for her but she didn't think it was the right time for them to date. She still thinks it's not the right time because he has a gf. However, he told her that it's over with the gf and that he doesn't want to waste any more time in a relationship where he's fantasizing about being with her. So, now I have no idea what is going to happen. I guess we will have to see. He asked her out apparently. We'll see. Hmmm well it depends. Glad to be of help.
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