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Early this morning, my partner of 3 years ejectulated in me.

We don't use birthcontrol as I have allergic reactions to latex and the pill. I refuse to have the implant in my arm as I believe it's like having a microchip for dogs and cats.

 

Normally he sodomises me that is our form of birthcontrol. So for a change we decided to have vaginal sex. He is pretty good at controlling himself, however this morning he ejectulated.

 

His reaction shocked and surprised me. He started panicking and saying he wasn't ready for this type of responsibilty (I am not pregnant) at the moment as we don't have the funds to raise a child. *I am a student at uni and he works full-time at a factory during the week and on a farm at weekends.*

 

The way he was ranting it seemed like all I could make out was "I can't deal with this at this stage of my life, I have money in holdings but there isn't much work to do at the factory or on the farm. What am I going to do."

 

I was silent as it was a complete shock for me and I started to think "OMG is he serious, its not just him. What about my life"

 

(It reads like I'm pregnant)

 

Later that morning I over hear him calling his mother and saying that he had an accident and that I was getting the morning after pill. OMG I was so embarassed that he told his mother. I havent told my mother about this as I don't think it is her business.

 

It's like he was acting like a teenager that caused trouble.

 

I am 24 he is 34 by the way.

Mr. Lucky Established Member

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Early this morning, my partner of 3 years ejectulated in me.

We don't use birthcontrol as I have allergic reactions to latex and the pill. I refuse to have the implant in my arm as I believe it's like having a microchip for dogs and cats.

 

Normally he sodomises me that is our form of birthcontrol. So for a change we decided to have vaginal sex. He is pretty good at controlling himself, however this morning he ejectulated.

Is anal sex as pleasurable for you as vaginal sex?

 

Mr. Lucky

Hi.P.O'Crit Established Member

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Concerning your allergic reaction to latex have you tried polyurethane condoms or natural skin condoms or perhaps an IUD.

 

You're right in that it's none of her business, yet. Pregnancy is still uncertain though.

Enema Established Member

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He sounds like a douche.

 

Get on birth control. Depo Provera is a good option that my wife uses. One painless injection once every 3 months and you're set.

 

Also, it's "ejaculated"

norajane Established Member

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I'm confused. What part of this is so surprising?

 

That you could get pregnant by having sex without using any birth control?

That he is not prepared to be a father?

That he told his mother?

That this is also your life and that YOU would be the one pregnant and giving birth if you don't do something about it right now?

Trimmer Established Member

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We don't use birthcontrol as I have allergic reactions to latex and the pill. I refuse to have the implant in my arm as I believe it's like having a microchip for dogs and cats.

Just out of curiosity, can you elaborate on why this is a problem for you? Is it the feeling that you are being treated like a dog or cat? Or is it a some kind of a concern that you will be tracked by the government, or something else?

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Haruka Member

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I'm confused. What part of this is so surprising?

 

That you could get pregnant by having sex without using any birth control?

That he is not prepared to be a father?

That he told his mother?

That this is also your life and that YOU would be the one pregnant and giving birth if you don't do something about it right now?

 

Answer to your first question, I am not stupid I do know that one can get pregnant without birth control.

 

Second answer: I said I understood about our money situation and that's a reason he doesn't want to be a father.

 

Third: Yes I was surprised that he told his mother. I mean what 34 year old calls his mother to say he came inside his partner. :confused:

 

Forth: I was telling what happened. It's not a question. I wanted to state what happen as I was in complete shock. There was no question. I wanted to vent it off.

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Third: Yes I was surprised that he told his mother. I mean what 34 year old calls his mother to say he came inside his partner. :confused:

 

Forth: I was telling what happened. It's not a question. I wanted to state what happen as I was in complete shock. There was no question. I wanted to vent it off.

 

I'd vent about it too. What kind of guy calls his mother to tell her about such a thing?

 

That's weird.

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i dunno, but i got a great chuckle out of your description of your form of birth control... lol, thats pretty blunt.

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Haruka Member

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Yeah it is indeed a weird form of birthcontrol, but it has been a good form considering we have been together for over 3 years :)

 

I still can not fathom over the way he acted when he came inside of me. I would expect a teenager to do that but not a grown man.

sb129 Established Member

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Your partner sounds like a great potential father.

 

Kidding.

 

What it reads to me is that your BFs opinion and fears are all that matters in your R.

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I too found your bluntness a little funny. :)

 

It's mucho weird that he had to call his MOTHER about this (especially right after). He's 34!!!

 

Does he know you didn't appreciate his little outburst/confession/disclosure to mommy? I would've ripped my SO a new one if he did that to me!

 

You have a right to your privacy, Haruka.

Trimmer Established Member

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I would've ripped my SO a new one...

Seems only fair, if you think about it...

Trimmer Established Member

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Hey Haruka - that was a serious question about your objection to the implant as birth control; I hope you didn't take it some wrong way, and I'm not arguing with your choice. I'm genuinely curious to understand more specifically what your feelings are about that, if you're willing to share...

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Haruka Member

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Hi Trimmer,

 

The course I am doing, my classmates are in their early 30s to early 40s and they have had the implant. They have both said they felt that it made them ill when it was implanted and that they could feel it in their, even when someone touched their arm it was visibly there. One woman decided to get it out as she felt ready to have children. The doctor used a scalpel to retrieve the implant from her arm. She was awake during the procedure.

 

So I don't see the point in having the implant. I do however will look in to the injections that enema mentioned.

norajane Established Member

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Third: Yes I was surprised that he told his mother. I mean what 34 year old calls his mother to say he came inside his partner. :confused:

 

I think there's a difference in calling to tell her he came inside you, and telling her that you two had an accident and that he was afraid you could be pregnant so were getting the morning after pill. It's certainly unusual, though, unless they're very close and he tells her everything...momma's boy??

 

But I would tell my mother if I were going to get the morning after pill. I live alone, so I might even ask if she could come and stay with me that day, in case I had a bad reaction. Sometimes that high dose of hormones can make you feel sick.

 

Have you taken it yet? Are you feeling ok?

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Hey Haruka - that was a serious question about your objection to the implant as birth control; I hope you didn't take it some wrong way, and I'm not arguing with your choice. I'm genuinely curious to understand more specifically what your feelings are about that, if you're willing to share...

I'm not Haruka, but I once looked into the implant. My OB Gyn said he refuses to prescribe it to his patients for several reasons: Severe side effects; if you experience those side effects, you can't just stop using it - it does require surgery to get it in and out; the implant sometimes 'wanders' and was found near a patients heart once, where it could have caused severe damage had it not been found in time.

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But I would tell my mother if I were going to get the morning after pill. I live alone, so I might even ask if she could come and stay with me that day, in case I had a bad reaction. Sometimes that high dose of hormones can make you feel sick.

You would call your mother in this situation?! How about having the prospective father sticking around and making sure you're ok?

 

That's what we did when the condom broke very early in our relationship. He drove me to the emergency room at 4 a.m. and was by my side all day. Needless to say, he is still in my life. Luckily I did not have any side effects or babies.

norajane Established Member

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You would call your mother in this situation?! How about having the prospective father sticking around and making sure you're ok?

 

That's what we did when the condom broke very early in our relationship. He drove me to the emergency room at 4 a.m. and was by my side all day. Needless to say, he is still in my life. Luckily I did not have any side effects or babies.

 

Yes, ideally the gentleman in question should be there. But that may not always be possible. Even if he is there, I'd still call my mom, too. And my sister. It's a traumatic event, emotionally and physically. They care about me and, as women, they can identify and provide some words of wisdom and comfort that isn't self-involved.

 

Guys tend to think about it from THEIR point of view...like the OP's guy. If I'm hurting, I would want someone who is concerned about me, rather than someone whose concern for me is also mixed with his own relief that he's dodging a baby bullet.

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What a little cry baby. Accidents happen. Even if you were pregnant, it's nothing to panic about, can easily be rectified by the morning after pill. WHY was he so scared? Men are so much more scared by babies than women.

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What a little cry baby. Accidents happen. Even if you were pregnant, it's nothing to panic about, can easily be rectified by the morning after pill. WHY was he so scared? Men are so much more scared by babies than women.

 

Not all men, just the douches.

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the IUD is pretty good too, usually for long term birth control (like 5 years) Its uncomfortable when its placed but just that day, after you dont even notice.

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Wow, I thought I was reading pages out of a teenager's diary. I'm sorry, but he sounds like a kid; not a thirty-something year old! :eek:

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When my H and I were dating, he did this when a condom broke on us.

 

And Trimmer, I DID tear him a new one.

 

The "sodomizing" thing was hilarious.

SoulSearch_CO Established Member

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I would highly recommend the hormone-free IUD. It's called Paragard. Nothing to mess with your cycles. It's a copper-wrapped IUD. It lasts 10 years and then you shouldn't have to worry about these little announced accidents for that time period. LOL Google the name to find their website. They have a Q&A section if you have any questions about it. Also, you do not have to have ever had a baby to get this IUD. But I do know they can run kinda pricey - talk to your gyno.

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