D-Lish Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 I wouldn't worry too much about her being busy Sun/Mon. Some people really do like to take things slower. The fact that she reschedules all the time is an excellent sign. Wait for her to contact you and firm up... then ask about the dinner at your place. I think it's time she came your way for a change.
BubblyPopcorn Posted January 18, 2009 Posted January 18, 2009 So I picked her up tonight, we went to get a drink (she paid), went to the movies (I paid), and went to dinner (I paid). Dropped her back off at her apt. she leaned over and kissed me goodnight. Asked her if she had time to spend Sunday or Monday, said she was busy, but said how about Tuesday or Wednesday. How can two people build a relationship if one is always busy? I do like her a lot, and we fit so well. We even think a like (except for time). I am perplexed. Obviously, I do not have a right to ask to her to re-arrange her week so we can spend time together. But how do I make this work? One a side note, she is calling and txting more since Friday. As long as it doesn’t come across as demanding, there’s nothing wrong with telling her you’d like to see more of her or that you'd like her to try and re-arrange things based on both of your availability. It shows that you want to integrate yourself more into her life and vice versa. The last man I dated, I had set plans with friends that I broke in order to go out with him. Though he didn’t ask me to, it was because I wanted too. Our last date, I had set plans with friends way before meeting him but I wanted him there with me so I asked him to come. I wanted him to meet some of my friends, for obvious reasons. That was me integrating him into my life. I would have liked to have seen more from him in terms of integrating me into his life, which I felt decreased rather than increased. Focus on building the connection versus punching holes in it, putting it under a microscope and analyzing it over & over. You will only create barriers for yourself and to each other. You both show interest and respond differently, because you are two different people. So just keep that in mind with her or whomever else you choose to date.
Author ruggy Posted January 19, 2009 Author Posted January 19, 2009 The sign that she contacts me back and calls so some interest. Plus, when I dropped her off on Saturday, she kissed me right on the lips before I was ready. Just thought since we both had tomorrow off (teachers - MLK day), it would had been nice besides the weekend. I said to her this morning lets do something Friday and she agreed. So, I would assume, it looks good on her end. If not, why would she give me another date? I am trying not to jump to fast or be too slow at things. So I take everything in stride when talking to her. Moving from txting to calling seems more personal too. On to date # 4.
Author ruggy Posted January 22, 2009 Author Posted January 22, 2009 Still have plans for tomorrow, I think. Been so busy with parent-teacher meetings (the fun stuff) I have not called her. She has them too. We've txted couple of times this week (she initiated). I plan a wonderful dinner of some of the finest Macaroni & Cheese and Bud Light (I care). Sounds pretty good, no?
Author ruggy Posted January 25, 2009 Author Posted January 25, 2009 It went well. Kissed a few times, talked a lot. At the beginning of the date, when we went to both kiss each-other we both turned our faces and bumped our noses on each-others. Both laughed it off. On to date five.
Author ruggy Posted January 27, 2009 Author Posted January 27, 2009 She asked me out to meet her friends tomorrow. That's a good thing, right?
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