prabhu_sachin Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I like a girl a lot. She has been friends with me from the last 2 years. She had even once asked me as to whether I can become her boy friend. But at that I didnt want to take it the next level. We had even got physical 2 to 3 times. Even now we are good friends. But she says there is another guy who likes her and she is close with that person. she is saying that he is trying to give a name to their relationship. but she still talks to me. she wants to talk to me more and more and she wants to spend time with me. she has said that many a times. for any help she comes to me. i like her a lot and now i am feeling hurt. But now i feel that she is going away from me. I love her a lot and when she is not there i miss her. But I feel that now she is not interested in me any more. Please help I am feeling hurt.
O'Malley Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 She had even once asked me as to whether I can become her boy friend. But at that I didnt want to take it the next level. We had even got physical 2 to 3 times. No one is getting used here, but both of you want to keep the other person around for those things you enjoy about each other. By discussing this other guy with you, she is attempting to gauge how you feel about her. Do you want to be friends only, or are you interested in having an actual relationship with her? If you want more, see where she stands. If you want friendship, you need to act like friends only -- no sex, no cuddling, no 'dating' activities. It's unreasonable for you to expect her not to move on and date other guys if you're unwilling to date her.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 She asked if you'd be her boyfriend, you said you weren't ready. Did you expect her to stay exclusive with you after that answer? Sounds to me like she doesn't feel like asking you again and being rejected again. So if you want the relationship to be exclusive, it's time for you to step up this time and ask for it.
Author prabhu_sachin Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 No one is getting used here, but both of you want to keep the other person around for those things you enjoy about each other. By discussing this other guy with you, she is attempting to gauge how you feel about her. Do you want to be friends only, or are you interested in having an actual relationship with her? If you want more, see where she stands. If you want friendship, you need to act like friends only -- no sex, no cuddling, no 'dating' activities. It's unreasonable for you to expect her not to move on and date other guys if you're unwilling to date her. I want an relationship with her as I love her a lot.
carhill Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Classic. Waffle until she has another guy. Clue train- the girl all but asked you to marry her and slept with you besides. You're a big disappointment. She still loves you but will not remain in a limbo of your choosing forever. This is the reverse of the "girlfriend with penis" theory for men. Maybe it's easier for her to turn off her attraction for you and that's what saved the friendship. Do something completely out of character to show her how you feel about her. Get back to us
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