blackrider27 Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 The other day i deleted her from myspace which was a big step for me, and i ignored all the messages she sent me asking why, until she said something was "important". But nothing was important she said that so i would talk to her, And anyway blah blah, i told her how her taking pictures with guys and drinking didn't do it for me. And she said she still loves me and then good night. So of course i didn't sleep that night and it ****ed me up on and off for a couple days. And i had to text her saying "You really confuse me" And she said "why" and i said because you get mad that i delte you, though you know why, you say you still love me, and then act like nothing is wrong. And she says she said what she needed to say and that she was doing what i asked her too. So i said i didn't know what's right (because i dont) and that i thought she moved on so i tried. And then she says, i didn't move on but idk. Which means she knows exactly whats happening and whats going on and knows why i asked. But she says idk. So i said well i know what idk means so sorry to bother you. What the hell, why did i do that.
Geishawhelk Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Because you did. n Never mind why. Don't ever text her again unless your house is on fire. Leave her be, don't respond, don't rise to the bait. Why will folk never learn?
saturnsfall Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 You can't beat yourself up over this one. It was terribly wrong of her to say she loves you. Your response to that, completely normal. You would only be expected to brush it off if you didn't care. She can't have the upper hand. One text is no big deal and the fact that you know you made a mistake is very important. I probably would have done the same thing. You can't fault yourself. Ex's like to catch us in traps. They are caught off guard when we delete them or stop calling. They begin to realize (no matter how terrible a person they are) that we probably don't care anymore and want to distance ourselves from the situation and potentially sour future situations.
Author blackrider27 Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 i don't know how i still feel about her, i guess i do still love her. But that sucks even more! Because say we were to get back together, I used to believe she was the one(hey it's high school) and then we broke up, and i wanted to get her back. And now i'm thinking that if we get back, she's gonna dump me when she goes to college. I knew i would get hurt, you know you'd think that her saying she loves me would be great news.
Author blackrider27 Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 So i really hope it gets better, i'm thinking of her less and less. But it's so nice how she pretends nothing is wrong in school. I really wish i could switch out of chem because i'd never have to see her. But i don't know what to do.
saturnsfall Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I can tell you a story that might shed some light: When I was in middle school, I met this guy (now, high school for me was 8 years ago) We dated through our 8th grade year and the relationship went to high school. We broke up (he broke up with me) during our Freshman year. It was terrible. We were in the same home room (keep in mind we broke up freshman year, so I have a lovely 3 more years to be in his home room) I was devastated at the breakup. First love, young love, I didn't think I would ever get through. I thought I was going to marry him. I don't remember if we had any of the same classes, except band. Honestly, he made my life miserable. He was childishly mean and would say terrible things about me to friends. If she is being civilized, you are very lucky. The best thing that ever happened to me, was out breakup. I didn't see it then, but I look back, and goodness what was I thinking! I saw him briefly (I don't think he even recognized me) for the first time since high school about one year ago. He hadn't changed, still a mess. Later, during my Sophomore year, I met someone unexpectedly, who is still in my life today. We dated throughout the remaining years of high school, on and off years later, but we're still very close. Sometimes I look back and think about how unfair some of the things I've gone through have been. But, I realize I'm grateful they happened when they did because I wouldn't have wanted to experience them as I got older. This is something you have to deal with right now, but you will be better prepared for many things in your future because you learned to deal with this now. I wish you the best of luck. You have so much time ahead of you. Get an A in Chem!!!
Author blackrider27 Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 I can tell you a story that might shed some light: When I was in middle school, I met this guy (now, high school for me was 8 years ago) We dated through our 8th grade year and the relationship went to high school. We broke up (he broke up with me) during our Freshman year. It was terrible. We were in the same home room (keep in mind we broke up freshman year, so I have a lovely 3 more years to be in his home room) I was devastated at the breakup. First love, young love, I didn't think I would ever get through. I thought I was going to marry him. I don't remember if we had any of the same classes, except band. Honestly, he made my life miserable. He was childishly mean and would say terrible things about me to friends. If she is being civilized, you are very lucky. The best thing that ever happened to me, was out breakup. I didn't see it then, but I look back, and goodness what was I thinking! I saw him briefly (I don't think he even recognized me) for the first time since high school about one year ago. He hadn't changed, still a mess. Later, during my Sophomore year, I met someone unexpectedly, who is still in my life today. We dated throughout the remaining years of high school, on and off years later, but we're still very close. Sometimes I look back and think about how unfair some of the things I've gone through have been. But, I realize I'm grateful they happened when they did because I wouldn't have wanted to experience them as I got older. This is something you have to deal with right now, but you will be better prepared for many things in your future because you learned to deal with this now. I wish you the best of luck. You have so much time ahead of you. Get an A in Chem!!! Thank you so much<3! That really opened my eyes, I mean i'm not completely down, but it's on the bad days it sucks. I know this is high school, and i already emerged a better person from before. But i mean days suck. But i think i'll read what you posted whenever i get to down. thanks!
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