4by4 Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 So its been more than a month of NC. I know she will never come back, I have fully accepted that. I have also come to the conclusion we will probably never be friends again. Last night, I dream of bumping into her in this situation - Setting: bus stop at shopping mall Me: "hey" Her: "oh hey" **small talk** Me: "so what are you up to now" Her: "I'm f**king a few of my bosses" Me: ".........." Her: "add me back on Facebook ok?" I turn and start walking away, she asks why and I tell her it's best to spare me the details. I don't want to know about her life. I still feel the hurt and just wanted to move on. I wish her all the best. She shakes my hand and tells me it was a pleasure meeting me. I know it's a really strange dream but I think this was my closure. It had to be. Happy it was done in my dream and not in person.
famke Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 omg, this is sooo strange. I had also a dream tonight about my ex. also about a confrontation with my ex. and for me it also felt as a closure. in short my dream: I havent had contact with my ex, and I really want to look at his myspace badly. to see new pictures, read messages etc. you know what I mean In my dream I went to his myspace online, and I saw all of this pictures (hundreds of them) and messages from girls who where interested in him and also from friends of mine that started to be friends with them (in real life my friends hate him). I woke up losing my mind, screaming, crying, etc. for me, in my dream I went through what for me was the most horrible thing that could happen: him moving on, and changing his lifestyle , removing me completely from his life. anyway, 4by4.. I think we went through the same tonight. I dont know if this was my final closure, but it toke me 5 steps further to my recovery from break-up. what you said in the end: happy it was done in my dream and not in person! sooooooo true: I'm also happy I didnt check his myspace. sometimes dreams are trying to tell you something!!!
Author 4by4 Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 Haha how random! I woke up with the same sick feeling in my stomach. But I quickly regained my composure and to be honest I have long accepted she is not coming back. It's also hard to imagine your ex spending passionate nights with someone else, but it's going to happen. So why fight it? I'm glad it gave me a taste of what it could feel like if I heard it in person, I know better now to never go near her. Shes nobody to me now.. and even though I always knew I was on my way to recovery, this was another giant step forward. Hope you got something out of your dream
not_a_happy_camper Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 i wish i could have my closure that way.................... last three days i've been really busy, and having a great laugh, partying lots with wonderful people.................actually haven't thought about my ex that much which has been great.................... which is why i can't understand how i've dreamt about him the last three nights.....................different dreams, but same situation in every one. him telling me how much he wants to be with me. and that he won't make the same mistake again. (he dumped me). and i wake up feeling all warm and fuzzy and safe and happy.............only to remember it's a dream..................wtf is the story with that?!!!
hoartiosans Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I also had a dream a couple of nights ago, it really did bring me closure...it was about her cheating on me with two other guys, now I don't believe she was cheating on me, but it showed me how I don't trust her anymore, and if I don't trust her I can't honestly think I still love her. For the first time in a month I finally feel like I can be truly happy (and happier) with someone new.
Eyeofthoth Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I know camper, me too. I just dream that he is back, and then I wake up and he isn't and it's like a gut-punch.
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