konfuzd Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 When my bf and I were first getting to know eachother, he was really intoxicated one night and told me about how he had attempted suicide a few months before we met. He said it in a snarky way, "I shouldn't even be alive right now, so it's hard for me to get worked up over little things" I asked what was up, and he explained how he had slit his wrists, but went 'across the street, not up the road'. He then went off with his friends and started joking with them, leaving me stunned. His attitude toward the whole thing kind of shocked me. I confronted him while sober the following day, and he denied everything. He said he didn't remember saying anything and that it was definately not true. He's such a happy-go-lucky guy with so much going for him that it didn't make sense, but you never know what people are hiding. It was really strange, but I just let it go. Last night at dinner, our conversation turned to suicide over some news story, and his roomie said something about how my bf knows all about attempted suicides. Bf just said "not cool" and changed the subject. There was a bit of awkwardness, so I got up to pay the bill, and heard them whispering as I walked away. Obviously it's a touchy subject with him, and I understand why he would lie when we were first getting to know eachother. Now that it's resurfaced, I kind of want to know the story behind it, but not sure how I can bring it up, or if I should. If he has a history of depression and attempted suicide, I think that I have the right to know now that we're talking marriage and such, but I also don't want to dig into his dark past, or make it uncomfortable for him. I know a bit about what he was going through in that time of his life, so should I just leave it at the information I have, and just keep it to myself? or is there a way I can bring it up to open discussion? Will this really achieve anything? I'm a bit worried, but not sure how to handle this.
Star Gazer Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Are there scars on his wrists? I'd think I'd notice that on someone I'm dating...
Author konfuzd Posted January 11, 2009 Author Posted January 11, 2009 No, there are no scars, which was one of the points he made when he denied it. Also, very morbidly, he told me that since he's a hunter and has 4 rifles, if he wanted to off himself, he'd make sure he got the job done. I'm just confused as to why he would tell me that he did, and why he was so put off by his friend's comment. I'm not sure that any of it did happen, that's kind of what I want to ask him, but not sure how to do it to get an honest answer, to see if it is true and something I should watch out for.
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