SoundTribe Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Last night my ex texted me again around 12:00. She asked "are you home?" I was asleep at the time of this message and woke up and read it a couple of minutes ago. This is her second text message to me within a week, and we previously hadn't spoken at all for the past 4 months. I am still very much in love with her despite what she did, and I honestly view it more as a naive mistake on her part rather than a malicious back-stabbing as I previously did. I don't know what her purpose is for texting me but it's really hurting my healing progress. Every time she contacts me the thought that she might want to get back together latches onto my mind and I begin to get hopeful for no reason. It might be that I am now attending college about 10 minutes away from her college and she is worried about actually losing me to another woman. Who knows... Any advice would be appreciated.
FrustratedEnergy Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Last night my ex texted me again around 12:00. She asked "are you home?" I was asleep at the time of this message and woke up and read it a couple of minutes ago. This is her second text message to me within a week, and we previously hadn't spoken at all for the past 4 months. I am still very much in love with her despite what she did, and I honestly view it more as a naive mistake on her part rather than a malicious back-stabbing as I previously did. I don't know what her purpose is for texting me but it's really hurting my healing progress. Every time she contacts me the thought that she might want to get back together latches onto my mind and I begin to get hopeful for no reason. It might be that I am now attending college about 10 minutes away from her college and she is worried about actually losing me to another woman. Who knows... Any advice would be appreciated. I take it from your post, that you would get back together? If you're happy healing and want to continue on that path don't respond. You have make great strides in NC. Don't ruin this for yourself. I can tell you, I have spoke with my ex, and I have not benefited. I would date him again, absolutely, but the reality is, that's not up to me. I think NC is the best option. I wouldn't break it. If she has something good to say, let her say it, then decide if you'll break NC. Don't break it until you hear something, something that will absolutely warm your heart and won't allow any sadness to could you. You don't deserve upset. You only deserve happiness.
Geishawhelk Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Soundtribe, I'm sorry, but I really think you either need to block her on your 'phone, or change the 'phone/number completely. You're reading her texts, man, which is only one dumb step away from responding! Change her name to "hit delete - NOW!" or get rid of her details and block her off. She may be hurting your healing progress, but hate to say it - you're giving her the opening.
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