wolfman025 Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Well to make a long story short, i've known this girl for about a year and a half, and we dated for 7 months. Once we hit 7 months, she was getting unhappy with herself and wanted to take a break to find her inner happiness. Well for about 2 months, I became really clingy, and insecure because I was afraid of losing her and now I did. She claims she loves me now, but isn't in love with me anymore? And I know she truly loved me when we were dating, because her and her friends constantly told me how happy I made her, and how much she really loved me. Well she broke it off, and now she just flat out won't talk to me, won't respond to my messages or anything. Can my being clingy really make her fall out of love? I need some advice, or if this is a hopeless situation I should move on... Any help is appreciated :\
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Of course being clingy can push them away. If a girl kept bothering you about this and that and insecurity, then of course you'd get annoyed and suffocated. But that doesn't mean that is what happened here. She did break up with you though, and that's a fact. Your best mode of action is no contact and moving on slowly. Cut her off 100%. At the very least, it will correct the clingyness that lingers in her head when she thinks of you.
MelissaM Posted January 16, 2009 Posted January 16, 2009 Hi Wolfman-I dated a guy for 2 years, long distance. He suddenly cut me off last month, no communication-I phoned, emailed and text with no response. I feel extemely hurt and heartbroken and I can't do anything. This has never happened to me and it is confusing. He lives in Cali and I live in Florida and I talked to him every day about every aspect of our lives. We saw eachother about once every 6 weeks and it is so disheartning to me and I am not sure what to think or do. I am not even sure now what we had, if anyting an I feel stupid. I don't want to call or email him anymore, but I don't understand why he never said why?? Didn't I deserve an explanation after 2 years and all the hours and days of time we spent together. I can't believe I was that bad a judge of character, he seemed so nice and level headed, I am so hurt and sad and it is hard for me to stop dwelling on him and the loss. I wish I was some help to you or some words of direction or wisdom, maybe just to let you know you are not alone.
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