confusedgirl85 Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 He broke up with me about 3 months ago, he said he wanted us to be friends, i agreed to that. He calls me every now and then, or we chat, or text at least every week. Two weeks ago we've been planning to go get a coffee or see a movie but every time we agree to do it, one of us cant make it because of work, family, etc.. Yesterday he calls to see if we can make it but i had to work late, he called me today and said he was going out with some friends tonight, so maybe tomorrow we can do something, i said ok give me a call. I still have feelings for him, but i really dont think he wants to get back with me. What if he calls me tomorrow??? I want to talk to him, to know what he really wants (friendship or more), because i dont want to be in this game anymore. But how can i do this? I know i dont have the guts to ask him right away...
iwanttolive Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Hello.. I'm kinda in similar dilemma as you. But i'm not sure if it's a good idea to directly ask him whether he wants just friendship or more. It might kill your chances if he knows you still hold the torch for him. I guess the ideal solution is to continue hanging out with him as friends but at the same time keep your option open, enlarge your social circle so you will not be too affected by him. But I know it's hard.. I'm still searching for an answer as well... Hugs!
Geishawhelk Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Get all and any idea of rekindled romance completely out of your head, unless he goes on bended knee, in public declaration, with an engagement ring slipped onto the stem of a rose. He's very happy to go with the friendship. He broke up with you, and as far as he's concerned you're completely OK with that, and happy to go along just as a buddy. If you're not happy with that, you need to look after your emotions, if they're fragile, and change what you're doing. He's happy to go on regardless. If your heart aches at this, you need to protect yourself and rely on the good ol' fashioned, "your-friend-and-mine" - No Contact.
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