crackerjax9 Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 ive been dating this guy since june..hooking up with him since january... i had just gotten out of relationsxhip when we started hooking up.. he would always chase me and i wasnt really inerested in him because i was still hung up on this ex...then when i was over the ex i started to really like him and we started dating.. all the sweet things he used to say are not being said ne more... hes very insecure and jealous and very controlling from what i wear to talking to any guy...we fight every other day over stupid things ( usually he starts the fight over silly things) .. he accuses me of seeing other guys behind his back or thinks im goign to cheat on him..hes always saying negatve thigns to me...im not at all that type i would never do that to him..weve broken up several times but are just miserable when were not together.. i dont know whats his deal.. im really in love with him but dont know if this stage is going to go away or not for him..any advice on how to make him feel more secure about us ? or just any advice on the situation?
Geishawhelk Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 You can't fix him. If this really worries you, you need to talk to him about his behaviour being excessive, and how it's threatening your relationship. If he admits he has a problem, get him to actually physically book therapy. Stand over him whilst he does this. If he won't discuss it and turns it on you - leave. These situations get worse, not better.
Enema Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 In my experience, people don't get over this type of thing until there's a shock to the system that makes them realize the behaviour is not acceptable. Because you keep taking him back, it sub-consciously reinforces his behaviour, so he won't stop. Unfortunately, to shock him enough to change, you'll need to break up with him - and stay broken up. He'll be fixed for the next girl.
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