crackerjax9 Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 Enter text here.ive been dating this guy since june..hooking up with him since january... i had just gotten out of relationsxhip when we started hooking up.. he would always chase me and i wasnt really inerested in him because i was still hung up on this ex...then when i was over the ex i started to really like him and we started dating.. all the sweet things he used to say are not being said ne more... hes very insecure and jealous and very controlling from what i wear to talking to any guy...we fight every other day over stupid things ( usually he starts the fight over silly things) .. he accuses me of seeing other guys behind his back or thinks im goign to cheat on him..hes always saying negatve thigns to me...im not at all that type i would never do that to him..weve broken up several times but are just miserable when were not together.. i dont know whats his deal.. im really in love with him but dont know if this stage is going to go away or not for him..any advice on how to make him feel more secure about us ? or just any advice on the situation?
You'reasian Posted January 11, 2009 Posted January 11, 2009 but were 20 years old.. What a wonderful time to start early and learn something about relationships!
4dviceJunki3 Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 This is my advice... Whenever it comes to your partner being jealous for whatever reason, you have to ask yourself, is there any specific reason that he should be jealous about? For instance, do you have a history of having cheated or mistreated your partner(s)? If yes, then he's entitled to a little insecurity which will create jealousy; however, if you've had a clean history, at least one that he knows of, then he's just in fear of losing the loved one. You have to realize that a little jealousy is healthy in a relationship because it reassures the significant other that your partner cares a lot about you and doesn't want to lose you over ANYTHING. But if the jealousy gets out of hand like in your case where he's very controlling and probably texts/calls, checks your myspace/facebook to see you're every move and to make sure he knows what you're doing, then you need to sit him down and let him know that his behavior is going to push YOU away. Reassure him that you will not cheat on him and that you love him. Maybe give him more attention and put more focus on your relationship. Be inviting; try to temporarily avoid going to dinner alone with the opposite sex. Right now your BF lacks trust in the relationship and you will need to give him a little ammunition to build on that trust.
Left in a Lurch Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Not trying to be mean but women love and can't live without guys that treat them like ****. My guess is you will be married and divorced in the next few years and be left with a few kids, a lousy job, and no self-esteem, a hatred towards other, better men, and maybe a few bruises. How bad does he have to treat you for you to realize he is not good? Will it take him getting physically abusive? The fact that he treats you like **** only makes you beg for more and basically he owns you now. If you can't figure that out and get out of the relationship now, why bother worrying about it? Just take it on the chin and keep being miserable and needy.
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