WiseOne1 Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 LMFAO, so shes figured out that your with someone new, ahh this is just the tip of the iceberg.
WiseOne1 Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I just hope the new girl knows how to fight...trust me, I've had the jealous ex's before...lol.
Geishawhelk Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 Big Mistake. Long story short, i just didnt make things worse. Actually, you did. I said, no im not ignoring you, you just havnt text me in a few days, i just dont want to be the one who is always having to txt you first. Ezekiel, here's the thing: You SHOULD be ignoring her. This just fuels her ego and nature. This makes her think that whatever you do, she will always be a part of your life because when she says jump, you say how high. That's the fact in her eyes. you give her your time of day. That's enough for her to believe that she is still important in your eyes. Bro, you really do have to kick her to the kerb. Keeping in touch with her is also very disrespectful to your new GF, and although she's wonderful and good natured now, there will be a time when she could very well start feeling ever so slightly peeved that this ex- still has your button to push. It's also unfair to psycho/GF#1, because it doesn't give her any clear opportunity to move on. And she will. But this way, she won't. Remember: Right Speech sometimes means actually keeping it zipped. Go NC, and mean it. I'm serious. This is no time to play juvenile mind-games, which is essentially what you're doing to your ex-GF. Come on man - grow up.
Author Ezekiel1337 Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 Big Mistake. Actually, you did. Ezekiel, here's the thing: You SHOULD be ignoring her. This just fuels her ego and nature. This makes her think that whatever you do, she will always be a part of your life because when she says jump, you say how high. That's the fact in her eyes. you give her your time of day. That's enough for her to believe that she is still important in your eyes. Bro, you really do have to kick her to the kerb. Keeping in touch with her is also very disrespectful to your new GF, and although she's wonderful and good natured now, there will be a time when she could very well start feeling ever so slightly peeved that this ex- still has your button to push. It's also unfair to psycho/GF#1, because it doesn't give her any clear opportunity to move on. And she will. But this way, she won't. Remember: Right Speech sometimes means actually keeping it zipped. Go NC, and mean it. I'm serious. This is no time to play juvenile mind-games, which is essentially what you're doing to your ex-GF. Come on man - grow up. Every time i get back from he house, it seems that im reading a post that has to do with exactly what i was just talking to her about no more than 5 hours ago. Always harsh Geisha, but always true. I never looked at it that way. I just didnt want to be an A-Hole by not answering. But even in her attitude, it's obvious that she's still playing these little mind games with me, im just an unknowing participant. You're right, it really isnt fair to the new girl to be still in contact with the psycho. But, the thing here is, she is still in contact with her LITERALLY psycho ex BF. BUt thats because they used to own a house together and he's still getting his sh*t out of there. For the past few nights, ive just been spending the night with her and we've been discussing how to deal with our ex's once and for all. In other words, how to get them out of our lives. The new girl was worried though, cus she goes to the same school as the ex. The new girl could probably wipe the floor with the ex's blonde head, really... no joke. The thing is there is no need for that kind of thing. I guess it's going to have to come down to having thick skin, for both of us. And understanding that this is something we both knew was going to happen. The crazy ex's that is... Geisha is right though, NC now, with no strings attatched, is the best way to go. I mean, i dont need to contact her anyways. For the most part, its just kind of her way of trying to either make me jealous or let me know she's angry about SOMETHING im am or am not doing. And last time i checked, we arnt together anymore. As always, thanks Geisha. Will get right on that, i think i need to change a few doctors appointments i still have set up together with the ex.
Author Ezekiel1337 Posted January 12, 2009 Author Posted January 12, 2009 I just hope the new girl knows how to fight...trust me, I've had the jealous ex's before...lol. Yea, she can pretty much destroy the ex. The ex is a little blonde wana be who talks to much sh*t. The new girl has had to deal with abusive BF's so she's been taking boxing classes for like a year now. No contest. HAHAHAHAHAAH
Trimmer Posted January 12, 2009 Posted January 12, 2009 I never looked at it that way. I just didnt want to be an A-Hole by not answering. No, by not answering, you are being her EX-boyfriend. And you're encouraging her to move on, too. Do get a thick skin - if she "calls you" on it, as if it is your responsibility to respond when she speaks to you, don't give in. See it for what it is: an attempt to manipulate you and keep some control over you, and ultimately your new relationship. Does the new relationship need her as a part of it? But even in her attitude, it's obvious that she's still playing these little mind games with me, im just an unknowing participant. And so now that you know, you can be on guard against getting pulled in. Will get right on that, i think i need to change a few doctors appointments i still have set up together with the ex. She's not pregnant, is she? You guys went to the doctor together?
Author Ezekiel1337 Posted January 13, 2009 Author Posted January 13, 2009 She's not pregnant, is she? You guys went to the doctor together? Oh jesus no... i would have left a suicide post on her if that was true lol. No, her and i saw a shrink together. Technically, they are doctors. But im no where near in the mood for an awkward moment when we walk in and were broken up. Yea, no. Plus he always asks us how we're doing. For 2 years we've been fine. Im pretty sure he'd just try to prescribe us medicine for the break up. Even though im already on a euphoric high due to the new relationship, no meds needed thank you very much. The appointment is for the 23rd of this month. So got to get on that. Oh, i forgot to mention, my ex tried to pretend to accidently call me twice today. Both of which i did not answer, and when she text me they were accidents, i did not reply. Nor have i replied all day. All is well that ends well. Hopefully, things keep playing out right.
diskey23 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 so i read the first post but not too many replies. i had a girl break up with me once, i started to date another girl for months. Once my ex wanted back in, i dumped my gf. she ended up marrying the guy that consoled her that night i broke up with her. I got back with my ex & after 2 years she dumped me again. the point im trying to make is, neither of these girls are your long term answer.
DSM-IV Tom Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 neither of these girls are your long term answer. He just summed it all up in this post here. Now enough stupidity.
Author Ezekiel1337 Posted January 13, 2009 Author Posted January 13, 2009 I know that though. Im ok with that though. She's here for now though. And im living in the now. Shes madly in love with me, and she has been the entire time ive been with my ex. I just dont know how long that will get me. But im happy right now. My ex and i officially said enough. She kept trying to contact me and i told her i moved on. And she had already moved on, she was just jelous i moved on so quick. Either way. We'll see what happens.
sultry33 Posted January 13, 2009 Posted January 13, 2009 you appear to be trying to move on but relly your not you know you have this appointment with the therapist etc and so really its not all over Both of you seem to be clinging to each other for support in your break ups the best answer would be to be by yourselfs then in time see where it will lead.. sorry but i cannot see a happy ending but just a rebound on both sides. you talk way to much about your ex and its not been that long If you want it to work maybe you need to grieve the 1st love before accepting another hope it works whichever you choose
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